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Thursday, February 19, 2004 12:23:08 PM

Last November I declared in front of a Clearing to Create 
classroom that I would be on the Carnival Glory this March, 
with Bijan, at the Effortless Relationships seminar.  It is 
time to make a new declaration.  Margaret and I now plan 
to be at a HAI Couples Workshop.  

What have I learned along the way?  

It is true that I have stated goals and secret goals, and that 
I may not know what my secret goals are.  Making the first 
declaration helped bring out the secret goals, through getting in 
touch with my feelings about the declaration, and through talking 
about it with Margaret.  In our dialogue we discovered that we 
had goals that could be delayed through attending the Effortless 
Relationships seminar, and they did revolve around money.  

It wasn't that we couldn't get the money.  We knew when I made 
the first declaration that we could get the money.  But we also 
knew that the money could be used in other ways, and we had some 
prior goals that we were working toward.  We wanted to clear our 
consumer debt.  We wanted to fund some vehicles for passive 
income.  We wanted to use Harv Eker's allocation system.  If the 
money were to come, it would have to satisfy these goals before 
we would be happy to apply it to this one.  So we found that the 
cost of the seminar was not the only cost we had in mind.  We 
recognized that to attend the seminar peacefully, we would have 
to clear these other, older goals.  

I have also learned that making a bold declaration may be done 
best in private, not in public.  It seems easier to change course 
when a public declaration is not required, because my ego has 
less to play with.  Fortunately, I remember an incident 
attributed to Mahatma Gandhi:  

	The story is that he was asked about his passionate stand 
	on an issue in Parliament that day.  He had just as 
	passionately stood for the opposite side the previous 
	week.  Why, then, had he reversed his position?  His reply 
	was, "Last week I was wrong."  

There is nothing wrong with being wrong.  It's just an 
opportunity to learn something new.  

Conflict is not a part of Peace.  Conflict is an opposite of 
Peace.  When I can peacefully attend the Effortless Relationships 
seminar, I will be there.  In the meanwhile, my relationship  
with Margaret seems pretty effortless already, and is becoming 
more effortless every day.  


Sunday, February 01, 2004 8:47:32 PM 

Bride, legend, saint, goddess, and mother
Return once again with your Celtic grace. 
Inside each European you still live forever 
Giving across the millenia that cannot sever 
Irish, Scottish, Teutonic memory of race 
Despite a new culture that came from another. 

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