Batya's Shidduch Profile

About Me	I'm a mature, happy 50-year old woman and want a relationship between equals. I seek to refine myself, grow through Torah and mitzvos. I value a warm, open home, my family, guests and friends feeling comfortable. I am committed to Torah learning and Ahavas Yisroel. I crave the intimacy and attachment of marriage and am fervent about creating a Torah-centered union.
My Stats	5' 5" tall shapely, and zaftig (literally "juicy" in Yiddish!) brown hair/brown sheitel hazel eyes sweet voice ready smile
Kids	I have 14-year old identical twin sons who live with me when they are not away at Yeshiva. Their upbringing as Torah-centered Jews is of the utmost concern in selecting a partner. I love children and would be open to marrying someone who has custody of his children. I believe that "children cannot be loved too much!"
WYSIWYG	I'm a pretty easygoing and informal person. I dislike phonies and like straight talk - with me, what you see is what you get. I have a good sense of humor, and love to be surprised! I am a good friend and keep confidences well. I currently work in the field of environmental management for an engineering firm. I've worked previously in Jewish communal service, environmental health & safety, and industrial microbiology. I'm also a writer, a quilter, a singer, and very musically inclined. I also like to hack around on the web and was designer and webmaster for the Kollel's site. I'm pro-imagination & creativity and anti-TV.
Availability	I have a Kosher get and civil divorce papers. I am able (& willing!!) to relocate within the US
Marital Philosophy "An Attitude of Giving"	I believe what is important in building a Jewish home together is mutual respect, affection and esteem, clear communication, sharing thoughts and feelings, and sharing interest in the other's activities. I would like to be an ezer k'negdo to my husband and have him rely upon me as such, us working toward the same goals. His learning is very important to me. A relationship needs unconditional love and acceptance to flourish; the ideal is to care so much for the other's welfare that it is integral to one's own welfare and being without losing yourself. Communication facilitates this. I have learned that problems which are faced when they're little don't grow to become huge and hard to handle. Also, I learned that HaShem does not give us more than we can handle - that there's always help in Him (though it rarely has the outcomes I expect... or want!).
About the Man	A JOYOUS TYPE WHO LOVES LIFE! Divorced or widowed, about my age, BT or FFB. He must be as far along or further in Yiddishkeit than me. He should be intelligent and a light-hearted person who sees the good in situations, and preferably will have a pleasant singing voice (so we can do harmonies!). He will be someone who is committed to growth through Torah and with whom the chemistry clicks. (Not perfect, but close!!) He needs to be able to be emotionally available, stable, affectionate, and communicate well. I, in return, will be loyal and respect him. And, we can have fun together!
My Ideal Mate	My ideal mate is good humored, relaxed and pleasant, intelligent, has good middos, is a good conversationalist, and is at ease in the company of others. He also must possess healthy self-esteem, be dependable and mentally stable. No abusers, no addicts, no rageaholics. He should have a good balance of home and work ethic. He is respectful and kind. Non-smoker essential, use of tools is a plus! If divorced, he won't spend a lot of energy bashing the ex.
About Parnassah	I am concerned that my husband must have a steady source of parnassah and the ability to support a wife and children in a pleasant manner (but not extravagantly). Financial difficulties can introduce a wedge of discord in the healthiest marriages. I am interested in continuing my professional career.
Miscellaneous Nonsense	Favorite color - Yellow? Favorite number - 7 Favorite flavor ice cream - Vanilla Favorite constellation - Orion Favorite holiday - Sukkos Favorite concerto - Adagio for Strings by Samuel Barber Favorite gemstone - Ruby (but I wouldn't turn down a diamond!) Favorite request . . . My Rav has said that every Jewish woman should have... AT LEAST ONE maid! (One can always hope!)