Cyber(Sighber) Romance

With internet becoming such a prominant source of information and communication, it is no wonder people are using it as a way of finding romance and even true love, if you are lucky. Sad to say though, we hear more of fouled-up cyber romances rather than the good ones. It could be that the successful ones are less heard of, rather than that most cyber romances will turn out bad or lead to nothing. Do you get the feeling I am talking in circles? If so, it is a reflection of how ambivalent I am about this form of relationships.

IRC and e-mail are usually the forms of communication and and it's also how couples meet one another in the first place. I was told that with IRC, it can be really intense since you only type and look in the sterile computer screen. You put everything into feelings. Those anti-cyber relationships say you cannot be sure how honest the other person is. I would say even in real life, how can one be 100% sure that your lover is not lying? I guess the counter argument could be that with communication done through such a technical equipment as computer, people feel distanced and those with evil intentions find it easy to lie. Without the usual body language involved in normal, real-life social interaction, everything boils down to how well you know the person, and maybe gut feelings (for the male specie) and intuition (for the female) have to be depended upon.

Yet, there are people who have told me that in fact, relationships formed on the net can be even better than those in real life. It could be the couple has spent lots of time communicating with words. They put feelings into words and convey them...personally, I do find it easier to open up to people on the net as the "distance" mentioned earlier gives a sense of security (which might be delusional) and thus one feels less hesitant about opening up. You can surprisingly get to know a person really well, provided you have learnt to trust each other and you are smart enough to see through lies.

All I can say is that no matter what, do not go into a relationship until you have met the person in real life. Once you have met each other, go on from there, since the person could turn out to be very different from his/her "cyber persona". Previously, I have only heard or read about people stupid enough to dump their long-time spouse for someone they have "met" over the net. I thought such a senseless thing happened rarely. I was wrong. I had the misfortune to know someone who is actually foolish enough to be doing it! But then again, it is not my business to pass judgement...I just hope that should this happen to YOU, think carefully and do not prolong the agony for everyone. Make things clear for all parties involved.

Therefore, save yourself from heartache. Learn to love youself and not blame yourself if you are cheated. You should congratulate yourself that you have the greatest human capacity to love. If you have ever been hurt, or knows someone who has been, in a cyber relationship, visit Cyber Romance . I hope this site will help heal your broken heart :)

As I find more and more interesting sites, I'll add then here for you to explore. Stay tuned for more!

PS:these are my personal comments and thoughts...you can of course disagree with me!!!Share your opinions with me :)

This is the most amusing cartoon I've found about IRC... hope you'll laugh as much as I did, at the same time, LEARN from it!