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Does/should bdsm D/s include romance?
Now of course W/we all realize that depending on O/our particular vantage point that answers will differ
~ please remember W/we A/all have a right to not only O/our opinion . . .
but not to be criticized for it . . . but in doing so . . . W/we also should reserve the same right for O/others.
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All are welcome with the understanding that we all have the right to disagree without being disagreeable.
(following text has been edited ~ foregoing greetings, etc.)
(side note on opinions)
Flier ~hehe.. no problem , but you know opinions are like assholes... everybody has one... LOL... mine may not be right for everyone, but it is for me...
CC ~ exactly . . .but it can also be enlightening
Flier ~ this is true... I will always listen to someone else's opinion.... but in the end, I am responsible and therefore I make the decision about how I conduct my life... same as it should be with anyone, I suppose...
RESPONSES FROM THE QUESTION POSED:
A/all participants have agreed to have T/their opinion and handles posted
Di ~oh heavens yes.........lolol...without it.......in my opinion..you can't get to where you want to be in a relationship....if you didn't want the heart to be involved to build trust...then be Tops/bottoms........not Dom/me ..sub...smiles
hopper ~ and answer.... how could a relationship with so much trust in it and the many levels of emotional involvements not include romance? would have some real concerns over the emotional stability of E/either that would be in such....
Flier ~ absolutely....I would want that, so I say it does... can it, definitely, should it? absolutely.... I tend to believe that sex can be sex for the sake of sex... but in reality most people want it to include romance... there has to be something beyond just "fucking" at least IMHO
~spring-rain~ OF Course!!!! Silly! Actually, if the question is 'should'... I'd say no, it doesn't have to... I guess it depends on the depth of the relationship and the 'form' of the relationship. But 'CAN' it? by all means!
viridiana ~ In my opinion it can and for me definitely should...my interest in BDSM is as a lifestyle not just a playstyle (although there is nothing wrong with that). As such I am actively seeking Someone with Whom to share my life in total...for that I need Someone who loves me and that I love in return.
Lauranthalasia ~ Does/can/should BDSM D/s relationship include romance . . . ? it would depend upon the D/s.....i am a romantic and so is my Master...that is why W/we have romance in O/our relationship...but there are some who don't want this....some are pain sluts that just want the sensation, not the "involvement" or the romance....that is what they agree to...before-hand...i like romance, myself
Dianna ~ I believe that BDSM D/s can and should have romance....I think EVERY relationship should have romance. *S*
naughty des ~ For every relationship there are different rules that will apply. And for every person romance is understood and express differently. But I do believe that BDSM D/s can include some type of romance after the scening of serving and/or the "whips and chains" type of scenes. SHOULD there be romance in BDSM D/s is another thing. I personally don't think it SHOULD be there. I think it is something that will grow over time and will eventually show itself in different forms as the love grows for the partners, but should? no, it is almost saying that you have to have it in a relationship of BDSM D/s, which is not true. hopes this makes sence..*L*..*kisses*
Lord Lion ~ Good question, I think it can, but does not have to?? Depends on the P/people involved in it..*ss* OK, now, about what I said?? BDSM does not have to include romance, but it defenitely can..*S* I have found I enjoy it more when it does though..*ss*
Steel Babe ~ I think romance..is a requirement of all relationships. However, it can be both good and bad in a D/s relationship. There are perspectives..and roles that get muddied by romance..
lil-fly ~ i don't think bdsm should include romance...it isn't about being all sappy and lovey-dovey....for me, bdsm is all about fulfilling the wishes of my Mistress.....yes, when i'm upset, She soothes me...but it has never included romance.....romance belongs in the nilla world....not in bdsm....
Willow ~ Can it? YES of course...Should IT? no, not necessarily...
Harpoon ~ Well My answer would be that it depends on the relationship and the partners involved.
It's all relative to the individual parties in the relationship, what they want, what makes them happy.
CC ~ *pondering the question and it's intent* for Me . . . it does not "have" to? no . . . "should" it? . . . gracious . . to set that up as a prerequisite . . . I would still say no. There certainly can be D/s w/o romance . . . I just know that in My heart of Hearts for Me . . . I would hope that, in a best case scenario, IF desiring to be in a situation that is long range I would find it difficult not to have at least some element of romance/love and yes . . .I would wish it.
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