BE ALERTED TO ANGER
Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul. Proverbs 22:24,25
Any person using carnal anger[1] in either their decision-making, management style, interpersonal relationships or as "their idea" of "running things" should be avoided at all costs. Anger is used as a "power\control method" on people. It is the mark of the coward (gossipers are angry people). They are cowards because their techniques do not work on the Wise who see through their cunning craftiness, so they use them on whoever can be made fearful at their whim.
Anger can be under the surface and concealed or break forth into wrath, rages or fury.
An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression. A mans' pride shall bring him low, but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit. Proverbs 29:22,23
CARNAL ANGER IS REVEALED
The wrath of man worketh not the Righteousness of G-d. Yakov (James) 1:20
Mans' wrath works not G-ds' Righteousness. It is not from any real Lawful cause at all, but is unlawful Subjective Judging perhaps about the way someone "parts their hair", shines their shoes or some "personal control factor" or emotional factor. This can be related to a desire to dominate in religious circles, business or profession, family, peer group or interpersonal relationships.
Husbands can intimidate wives in this fashion; her being perpetually in fear of "making him angry". Likewise, a "family scion" may dominate by intimidating family members. Churches and businesses may also be subjected to such bullying. Wives "in the world" are known to use anger for control purposes and manipulating their husbands' behaviour. "Whatever you do don't get her upset", or "don't make her mad or you will regret it".
We will go into more detain concerning women and anger below.
ANGER AND THE WOMAN
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Proverbs 21:29
Anger as a lifestyle is not to be desired by any Lady of Grace. She is to bring Peace by her G-dly submission and prevent anger from being brought into any situation. She is to defer all anger and make the Home a Joyful place, not one of contention or strife. She is the Centre of the Home, and no Home can be established in tumult and uncertainty.
Men of G-d should beware of any woman that always seems to be angry or dissatisfied about something or someone. She is not to try to anger the man, or be captive to anger herself for the Home must be a place of Spiritual Peace and Virtue.
One that seems to "fly off the handle" at small things, and especially one who tries to "put him in his place" (?) from time to time. This is a sign that she simply has "issues" about being Truly submissive. She could have been told by others that she is "justified" to be angry as well. Sometimes anger is used as a "power technique" to manipulate so they can "get their way". The male submits rather than risking "making her angry". This may seem to work well "in the world", but Believers must not court this potential disaster.
Why isn't anger "acceptable" for any Lady of Grace? Because Scripture says of the Example of the Virtuous Woman:
...and in her tongue is the Law of Kindness. Proverbs 31:26
Every Lady of Grace is to follow the Example of the Virtuous Woman, and not succumb to how "the world" operates or be captive to anger. Kindness and Anger do not co-exist! Any woman who exhibits anger on a regular basis, Believer or not, should be identified and avoided by every Man of G-d. Also, he should never really Marry one, obviously.[2]
Once she demonstrates a proneness to anger, he must keep himself distanced far from her.
CARNAL WRATH AND "RELIGIOUS" PEOPLE
The man (or woman) of carnal anger will sometimes attempt to find ways to "justify" his anger using "religion" or "worldly politics".
He has a "right" to be angry because of thus and so, when in fact he is lawless.
ANGER "WITHOUT A CAUSE"
The Scripture says "without a cause". There of course is some cause, so what does this mean? This means WITHOUT A LAWFUL CAUSE which ends up being no cause at all in G-ds' Sight. The lawless angry man cannot find a Lawful reason to be angry (I John 3:4) but he is still angry.[3]
He can be readily identified because he will not seek out his brother as he is Commanded to do, but remains "stewing in his own juice". There is no attempt at reconciliation made, and the angry man remains "boiling".
There is no forgivenes in this person. He will separate himself in his rage and "justifies" his anger as his wrath feeds on itself.
THE SOLUTION
There is only one solution for those caught-up in this: TOTAL REPENTANCE! Those that are under its' influence because of association must separate totally from the source of this anger. Full recovery is possible, but only if you get completely away from it.
The reason for separation is that whosoever engages or participates in this type behaviour is neither in, nor pointing The Way to His Kingdom. They can influence and incite their associates to use their methods of control and so spread this influence.
Scripture says whosoever hates his brother is a murderer. I John 3:15
Their "personal kingdom" may last "for a season", but will eventually fail because it is founded on personal dictates and the wheels of injustice.[4]
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FOOTNOTES
[1
This lawlessness could be the result of false information, deceit or misunderstanding. Nevertheless, it is still unjust.
It could also be unjust because those that remain in anger have not sought out the alledged "offender" (as they are Commanded to do) and thus has not heard all sides of the story.
It could also be connected to suppressed subconscious Sado-Masochism. Those refusing to Repent and who are deeply involved may want to seek professional help.
They can also be referred to Anger Management Programs staffed by Qualified professionals.
On the other hand, full Repentance from such Offensive Behaviour on the part of the angry man can bring a total reversal of their thinking, break this curse and produce Great Blessings.
[2
This is a rerun of Ahab and Jezebel all over again. I Kings 21.
Scripture says that a Jezebel spirit seduces G-ds' servants. (Revelation 2:20). This she does by means of the threat of her potential wrath which could be poured forth if not obeyed. If not obeyed, or if things don't work out according to her manipulations or expectations, she can turn on G-ds' servants using men submissive to her manipulating will to do her bidding. Jezebel is not as pretty picture of the ultimate Strange Woman who, uinfortunately, ends up at the dogs' mouth. I Kings 21:23.
[3
Since there has been no actual sin committed by the one he is angry with, he will never risk an open confrontaion, as this would unmask his own unrighteousness in not having Lawful Cause to be angry.
He may convince others in his "control group" that he truly does, but will not openly voice what he considers "reasons" before those that know the true facts because his are invalid and he knows it. This is also the mark of a coward.
He "clothes himself in the robes of religion" but dare not show his face before any Religious Court or Beith Din because his cause is unjust.
Some "religious teachers" use doctrines filled with fear to control their "followers". If they disagree, wrath falls upon them and they are "shunned" unjustly. Dispensationalists false teachers use these tactics at times, threatening their "followers" they will be "left behind" if they do not obey. All this because they "love them so much".
[4
...and Jesus overthrew the tables of the moneychangers Matteyahu (Matthew) 21:12
The Role of Spiritual Authority is to the Man of G-d. When the Spiritual Man appears, the woman is not to do His Office.
...speak every man the truth with his neighbor...Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Ephesians 4:26
There is such a thing as Righteous Indignation or Righteous Spiritual Anger. This is always done in the Name of the L-RD and the Lawful Application is always stated.
In the passage above, the Command is to "every man", that is every Spiritual Man excersizing the Authority of his Lawful Spiritual Office. The woman is not to usurp it.
Ephesians 4:26 (above) also singles-out "your wrath" (mens') and to not cling to it.