"I am about to put forward some major ideas; they will be heard and pondered. If not all of them please, surely a few will; in some sort, then, I shall have contributed to the progress of our age, and shall be content."

                                                                             Philosophy in the boudoir by Marquis De Sade

"We are no guiltier in following the primitive impulses that govern us than is the Nile for her floods or the sea for her waves."                                                                        

                                                                                    Aline et Valcour by Marquis De Sade

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So Y/you think Y/you might have an inclination towards D/s and/or BDSM?

Well this is My site for learning from an explanation as to what D/s and BDSM is to links and sites to help Y/you in Y/your search.

I hope Y/you can find something here in Y/your quest to help Y/you along Y/your way in D/s and/or perhaps put

Y/you on Y/your path to learning W/who and/or W/what Y/you are in “The Scene”

Stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism

Symbolizes Dominance (Dominate, Master, Dominatrix, Domme, Top) and submission (submissive, slave, bottom)

Representing in the lifestyle both parts of what we call “The Power Transfer”

The power transfer signifies the transference of power over one person to Another.

(Example) I tell Person A. to kneel before Me. Person A. follows the order.

There are as many different variations and different ways to define the power transfer as there are relationships.

Commonly however all relationships begin at 50/50 until a bond of trust based of honesty and respect is established then the submissive may see it fit to bestow more power to the Dominant.

As opposed to re-writing what has been written all over the net I will just post here some links to sites relating to this topic as it is different for A/all of U/us.

The Dominant: A source for dominants participating in domination and submission

As with the Dominant section I will post here some helpful links.

Submissive Loving; The submissive; a source for submissive regarding domination and submission

Beginners Guide to BDSM Munches<-----pay no mind to the area just use it as a resource

Safe, Sane, and Consensual is the agreement all Real Life D/s BDSM P/people abide by.

Safe- Meaning that the scene in which you plan on partaking in has been discussed and is in agreement with both Dom and sub to be safe and a safe word has be discussed and will be agreed upon. A safe word is a word that the submissive may end the scene at any time at her discretion.

Sane- Meaning that A/all parties involved sanely (beyond a reasonable doubt) understand what is to take place and agree upon what T/they are partaking in and understand T/their R/roles in the scene.  (That no unnecessary life threatening risks are being taken)

Consensual- Meaning that A/all parties understand the risks, the scene, and the consequences of T/their actions. Agreeing upon it and giving T/their permissions for the scene to take place.

Honesty- If Y/you cannot be honest with Y/your Dominant or submissive you have no place in this lifestyle.

Trust- Without trust there can be no scenes, there is not any relationship between the Dominant and submissive. (Why honesty is so important)

Respect- Respect is something that A/all parties in a scene and/or D/s relationship must have for each O/other without it from A/all parties there can not be a scene or relationship.

Respect is earned not given, so don’t feel free to send Private, Instant Messages without their permission speak in the room first.

Do not demand anything from a submissive unless they give Y/you permission to in advance.

Do not advertise W/whom and what Y/you are just sit back relax and speak in the room if S/someone wishes to know then T/they will ask in the room.

If Y/you are new to the lifestyle your best bet is to stay quite listen and learn. Feel free to explain Y/you are new to the lifestyle and wish to learn more I’m sure the O/occupants would be more than happy to help Y/you find some resources for helping Y/you find Y/your way in the lifestyle.

One Dominant or submissive may or may not work with O/one A/another but do not be judgmental towards T/them for that does not necessarily make T/them a bad Dominant or submissive just not Y/your Dominant or submissive.

Just because one chooses the Role of submissive in the D/s lifestyle does not mean one is a door mat to be used and abused. So little ones until you find your Dominant you do not need to obey every so-called Dominant or Master that comes around. Be strong in your submission.

This is my personal view on the submissive gifts.

It is my belief that there are three stages of submission where there is transference of Power Over the submission to a Dom. Each of these three gifts are extremely special & to receive any of them is extremely grand.

The 1^st The Mind...When a submissive grants you the power to see into their minds. Where they are open enough for you to know them, teach them, learn from them, and about them. Any form of submission is truly a precious gift for a Dom to possess.

The 2^nd The Body....There are of course different levels and extremes of the gift. The most extreme being total submissiveness of the body...To going and retrieving a beverage...

The 3^rd The Heart The most valuable and the most sensitive one of the three. The heart, it is the gift that a submissive can give that almost certainly grants access to the previous. The heart however is not as easily gained as the others regardless of how much they give you. Their heart is always the most precious, yet most fragile gift of the three. So Doms, please take good care of it because a submissive has only one.

It is also my belief that TRUE DOMINANTS, DOMMES, MASTERS, MISSTRESSES, TOPS have learned to recognize and take care of the submissive gifts and to never abuse the power granted them through their submission...

A little something for the broken submissive

Unfortunately some submissive find a Dominant that truly isn’t a Dominant at all but a Player and she gets hurt sad but true here is where I plan on posting sites I believe they can maybe regain some strength.

Letting Go Meditation

Some D/s Based Poetry By NyteRaVen

I am currently accepting Poems By O/others. If Y/you would like to add and share Y/your works with O/other P/people of the lifestyle .