BRC - Dungeon Chat - Denial is Not a River in Africa - Sept. 13, 2000

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Denial is Not a River in Africa
What if you are injured and hospitalized . .
someone has to go to your home for things . . .
would there be a cause for concern on what they might find?

Dungeon Chat is held Wednesday Evenings 9-11 EST in the Dungeon @ Fantassia's Palace.
All are welcome with the understanding that we all have the right to disagree without being disagreeable.

(following text has been edited ~ foregoing greetings, etc.)

Mon Sep 11 11:59:28 2000
[ Wishing inner peace to all in a world of turmoil ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~:
Dungeon Chat TOPIC this week

"Denial is Not a River in Africa"
One of our discussions at DC and elsewhere came up with some questions that might well be presented as a reality check of the here and now . . . as opposed to the hereafter of which it has not been proven that we can control.

Have you made arrangements for your sig other(if not married or if you are)to be notified in case of accident or worse?
If you do not wish your computer files to be open book to whoever inherits your computer . . . how have you secured those files?
Do you have information stored off site?
What about back up floppies, cd's or zips?
What about your toy bag and other equipment that the discovery of such might be an embarassment to your children and/or other family/friends?
If you have a partner have you made arrangements for their well-being in the event of? How have you done so and what measure have you taken?

Would very much like to look at possiblities to share with others.

well . . mortality is a given . . and "denial is not a river in africa" does not undo that fact. So for the moment suppose you are injured and hospitalized . . someone has to go to your home for things . . . would there be a cause for concern on what they might find?

Or if you were to die . . .what surprises (if any) would your children and family be in for. What, if anything, would you change or prepare differently?

(these questions will be posted on the forum for those of you that cannot make the discussion and would like to participate)
I want to share .. take me there

Wed Sep 13 7:01:16 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

LOOKING around

no C C

Wed Sep 13 7:03:03 2000
gentleminx: ~greetings to A/all~

Wed Sep 13 7:03:27 2000
gentleminx: *lol* No Sir, not yet.

Wed Sep 13 7:05:37 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

Comment on reading of others not likeing C C holding these discussions

Those that protest are usually the ones that do not want new bes to know real facts from real people who are really in the lifestyle or associated with a real club or org.

The see each knowelgeable sub as one MORE sub the can not mislead and get their paws on

so Pay no attention to them
and if the do not like it tough tomatoes

Wed Sep 13 7:06:43 2000
LES IS MORE(m):wondering what happened to all My y's in the last statement

hello gentle

Wed Sep 13 7:08:50 2000
gentleminx: ~warm greetings Sir~ and it is quite easy to criticize is it not? Yet, true caring takes commitment and character. ~looking at CC and smiling in appreciation of Her rare Spirit~

Wed Sep 13 7:09:58 2000
LES IS MORE(m): Comment on reading of others not likeing C C holding these discussions

Those that protest are usually the ones that do not want new bes to know real facts from
real people who are really in the lifestyle or associated with a real club or org.

They see each knowelgeable sub as one MORE sub they can not mislead and get their paws on

so Pay no attention to them
and if they do not like it tough tomatoes

Wed Sep 13 7:10:21 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: evening

arriving breathless

Wed Sep 13 7:11:33 2000
gentleminx: ~happy greetings Ma'am~ and it i may say? breathless looks quite good on you.... *g*

Wed Sep 13 7:11:40 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: well LES IS MORE *quick kiss on the cheek*
you are way too sweet!

evening gentleminx and shadow lurkers

Wed Sep 13 7:12:07 2000
LES IS MORE(m): gentle it is

and there are a lot of people that feel the net should be for fantasy and role playing
they see a group talking reality as a danger to what they want

then their are just the nay dayers
nothing is right to them

UNLESS THEY DO IT

Wed Sep 13 7:12:57 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

Blushing from C C 's kiss

Wed Sep 13 7:13:26 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: Before I get into tonight's topic, I have an announcement

Wed Sep 13 7:14:05 2000
gentleminx: ~twinkling at Les~

Wed Sep 13 7:14:15 2000
LES IS MORE(m): listening

Wed Sep 13 7:17:06 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: gee LES IS MORE . . didn't realize how good pink looked on you!!!

*smiling *

This is something I have been looking forward to for a long time.
The BDSM Resource Center now has its own domain name and place on the web!

thebrc.net - take me there!

Wed Sep 13 7:18:07 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

book marked it CC

Wed Sep 13 7:18:23 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: my appologies it is only the by the grace of this dinasaur of a puter that I am here at all! slower than molasis in january . . . and more tempermental than red heads w/ pms!

Wed Sep 13 7:18:31 2000
gentleminx: ~huge grin~ i love it Ma'am!

Wed Sep 13 7:20:00 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

We who know you understand C C

Wed Sep 13 7:21:17 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: I want to recognize all those that have contributed to the site with a special thanks . . . Special kudos to Cinnaminn the Webmistress that has tirelessly edited transcripts . . . . tried to show me how to do things . . . gentle for trudging with me to interviews . transcribing tapes . . . etc . . . and those of you that have supported the Dungeon Chats from which the website grew!!! *winks at LES IS MORE who has covered for me on more than one occasion*

Wed Sep 13 7:22:06 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: any way . . . *finally catching my breath*

Wed Sep 13 7:22:31 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

thinking I would rather have covered CC

instead of covering for her

Wed Sep 13 7:23:50 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: back to the topic of the night

Wed Sep 13 7:25:36 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: bad LES . . . bad!! *S*

the TOPIC again is:
Denial is NOT a River in Africa

the actual subject is one that is rather dry but of importance to those that deal with the lifestyle r.t and/or take their v/t seriously

Wed Sep 13 7:26:45 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: Many of us put of things in our everyday lives because we either don't wish to deal with them or simply are too busy.

Wed Sep 13 7:27:30 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

well My wife knows of My interest
My son knows of My interest
but even then there would be problems with an accident or My death

Wed Sep 13 7:28:45 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: And yet when we look around . . . there are things all over to remind us of our mortality. Most of us don't want to deal with those issues. However we can be in an accident . . . . or worse.

And the truth of the matter is no matter who you are or who you know . . . you don't get out of this world alive!

Wed Sep 13 7:30:26 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: Everyone . . vanilla, chocolate, neopolitian . . .doesn't matter. Yet there are some issues that are unique to our lifestyle and this is bringing them to our attention so that those of us that wish to may make arrangements in a timely manner.

Wed Sep 13 7:31:50 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: I have had the opportunity this week to speak with an attorney and a policeman with regards to things that would be helpful.

Wed Sep 13 7:32:52 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: LES IS MORE . . . I believe you have spoken before about the Boston Dungeon Society . . . if you go there what is it that you see *lol* no names please!

Wed Sep 13 7:33:32 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

there are many things that can go wrong with a scene also
face facts
during a scene the heart rate is up
the blood pressure is high
and the MORE intense the scene the higher they are

people in these situations who are young and in the best of health die without warning
rare but it happens

Wed Sep 13 7:34:21 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: and gentle minx (others in the shadows if you wish to comment please do) . . . and I know you have a few things that might perhaps raise the eyebrows of some of your siblings or parents

Wed Sep 13 7:35:06 2000
LdyPirata: good evening, M'pretties ;-)

Wed Sep 13 7:35:13 2000
[ ~*~i am fortune full~*~ ]
~*~the light{MDS}~*~: ~running in and quietly taking a seat~

~out of breath~

g'evening A/all..~ss~

Wed Sep 13 7:35:26 2000
gentleminx: Ma'am! but yes, it is true. *s*

Wed Sep 13 7:36:10 2000
[ ~*~i am fortune full~*~ ]
~*~the light{MDS}~*~: oopsy...sorry....

Wed Sep 13 7:36:17 2000
redlace1_98: i am here, just watching.

Wed Sep 13 7:36:22 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: it is not only that LES IS MORE . . . *lil chuckle* for instance . . . when I head to the dungeon and plan on wearing something other than mundane street clothes . . . I will usually change up at the dungeon. (or in the parking lot having someone help lace me in!)

Wed Sep 13 7:37:23 2000
LES IS MORE(m):

C C

at the BDS I see everyday folks
some old
some young
some fat
some thin

you could pass them on the street and not have a clue

it is the same with Munches

the main difference is
at a BDS function many are dressed in scene clothes whereas at a munch they are not

there are demos/lectures at a function then some chatting
just chat at a munch

Wed Sep 13 7:37:54 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: greetings all . . tonights discussion is on the reality of the lifestyle and things to think about . . .

we invite you to join in . . . and please we also ask that non-topic discussion be kept to in private *S*

Wed Sep 13 7:39:40 2000
[ Learning from the past ~ Living in the present ~ Looking to the future ]
~Cyberotica-Chrysalis~: nods to LES IS MORE yes . . . . one of the reasons I usually dress at the dungeon is that some of the clothing is . . . well "suggestive" and I have on several occasions been pulled over by the police. I really don't want to give them any reason to search my car

Wed Sep 13 7:39:49 2000
[ ~*~i am fortune full~*~ ]
~*~the light{MDS}~*~: for me...i am very much in touch with tonight's topic...as You know CC..i have a young Son..and have to be careful with how 'open' Albert and i are around Him...as my divorce is over...custody can pop up at anytime...and there is no way i would ever do anything to lose my son....

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