BDSM on the Net
by kitten
In the past few years of coming to a on-line BDSM D/s site, calling it a cyber home of sorts, W/we've noted the deterioration of a place that was once a place of respect & honor. A place where pleasantries were exchanged, where P/people true to the lifestyle exchanged information, had intelligent conversations, where educational scening took place, all-in-all, it was as true to life as W/we could make it.
In the process of a couple of years (perhaps a wee bit longer), the Dom/mes no longer behave as Dom/mes (for the most part), but as power hungry F/folks, who are the like of emotional and physical vampires, wanting no more than to be in control of a kinky sexual experience rather than to delve deeply into that which is the BDSM lifestyle.
The physical aspect is but a small part of what BDSM truly is. T/those W/who live the lifestyle on a pretty much 24/7 basis (yes, i know S/some are not fortunate enough to do such), realize the emotional and mental growth that is involved. How many can say T/they have broken down into tears over some type of elation in T/their discoveries of T/themselves? How many can say T/they truly know their P/partner's soul inside & out?
F/few take the time to learn anymore, few take the time to take criticism and apply it to T/their lives, to take a good look at things and as to perhaps why they are criticized or flamed, or shown no respect.
There are extremely few W/whom i respect anymore, in fact i may be able to count those on less than 2 hands! T/those W/who i DO respect, know W/who Y/you are in the way i act & react to words/actions, and the P/people i DO respect are seldom there anymore anyways due to the lack of order.
There are collarings, and un-collarings...Dom/mes taking submissives then discarding them after their usefulness has been depleted. Submissives taking Dom/mes for the sake of being able to say they have One. Backstabbing by A/all P/parties involved.
A/all W/who know me, know i am not one to mince words, i am as true to life in cyber-space as i am in the real world. S/some don't like it, but then again....i can refer back to the "constructive" or "destructive" criticism (whichever Y/you prefer). Perhaps take time to ponder what is so irritating, or so questionable that T/those around speak out in such manners.
Being a submissive is not merely being someone who is a cowering fool, for the most part, it takes a strong & intelligent person to be a true submissive. Being a Dominant is not merely being Someone Who takes charge or orders submissives around. It takes a healthy emotional & mentally balanced P/person to find true happiness in that which W/we call BDSM. The lifestyle is not a temporary "fix," and those who look for a fix are most definitely deemed players.
Be true, be honest, be safe
Regards,
kitten
May 11, 1999
As always . . . Remember to have fun and play safe.
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