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Raise a caring child.Children are just growing and learning about the world. You can teach them how to be more caring and understanding of the world around them with these 50 simple ways to raise a caring child:

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  1. Teach her magic words like thank you, please, excuse me - when she uses them, you're under her spell and grant the polite request

  2. Tea for two: dress up animals, outdo each other's politeness

  3. Pet project - let her help wash the pet

  4. Take your child with you to vote and say why it's important

  5. Answer all questions truthfully

  6. Praise others' helpfulness or politeness

  7. When she goes to bed, ask what was the best and what the hardest part of the day - just listen, and don't approve or disapprove

  8. Every week, give a most caring person award to a family member

  9. If - then game: if Susan likes crayons, child supplies then (then we can color) - so the guest feels welcome

  10. Sort and save - be environmentally creative

  11. Rewind video tapes before returning (be considerate)

  12. Label emotions for her. "You seem angry" "She looks lonely"

  13. Give a hug - when she's nice, when she's sad, tell her to ask for one if she wants it

  14. Set goals, for realistic objectives, like saving money for a special toy

  15. Do the right thing - admit it's hard to be honest and praise her when she resists the temptation of dishonesty

  16. Help her find the polite words to say, give her a hint

  17. Praise any kindness your child initiates (don't qualify with but or why)

  18. Fight fair - when you argue with your spouse, don't blame, compromise and make up - she/he's watching

  19. Give second chances - if she/he lies, remind her it's important to tell the truth, and praise her when she does

  20. See how many words you can think of to describe how people feel - set a goal of 50 words, keep adding to the list

  21. When someone new moves into the neighborhood, visit and welcome with child and a card or cookies

  22. Get a phrase to use when someone's rude in the family so the person will be nicer

  23. Ask her to secretly observe someone and find out what to do to make them feel good, do it anonymously

  24. Establish a no-hurting policy at home - any child over aggressive goes to a "cool down spot"

  25. Ask permission before taking, using or throwing away her things

  26. Plan to watch an inspiring video tape

  27. Role reversal. For 10-15 min let her pretend to be the parent and you the child

  28. Talk about local good-deed doers, read heart warming stories aloud (Chicken Soup for the Soul)

  29. If child steals something, explain why it's wrong to keep it and have him give it back to the owner personally

  30. If you notice litter, pick it up and throw it in a garbage can or recycling bin

  31. Never break a promise. Don't promise a reward/punishment you can't give

  32. If a kid cries on the playground talk about it "What do you think made him unhappy?" Talk it out

  33. Let your child feel consequences of mistakes (if you leave your bike out in the rain, it gets rusty)

  34. Don't lie. If she catches you at it, admit it, and apologize.

  35. Give a weekly allowance and let her decide how to spend it

  36. Never ask her to lie for you (Such as, "Tell her I'm not in" or "Don't tell your dad I bought this")

  37. Teach her to say thank you for gifts she doesn't like. Pretend to give funny gifts, ask her to say thank you

  38. Encourage her to make eye contact - contests to see who can outstare each other while having a conversation

  39. Make a list of statements - ask which are true, which false

  40. When she feels a tough moral dilemma, resist the urge to supply answers. Use role play to help her think through her feelings and find a solution

  41. Have her decorate her personal toy box, things she'd rather not share- hands off. Leave toys to share

  42. Let her do her own homework - you can't do it for her but tell her you'll help and check it over when she's done

  43. Ask an older child to help care for a baby. Have her suggest ways to soothe a crying baby.

  44. When you watch tv/videos, talk about the characters' action and their effect (if he hadn't lied, he wouldn't be in so much trouble now; it took courage to tell the truth but it was worth it in the end)

  45. When she gives a special present, send her a thank you note through the mail

  46. Watch a cartoon about manners and telling the truth and discuss what should have been done (ex. Pinocchio)

  47. Designate a chair as fighting bench when two kids fight, send them to it to sit until they can say what they did wrong and apologize

  48. Vent creatively - if you get angry, do something you'd like her to do - draw how you feel, rip up old newspapers

  49. Join a playgroup, find an extracurricular activity for the child with people from different backgrounds

  50. Take your child to visit and help care for the less fortunate - explain how good it makes you feel to help others

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