My Philosophy on BDSM

As I became more comfortable N assuming the role ( Dom/Master) the more I saught 2 explore this new realm of pleasure, pain and discipline, or so I thought. I've learned and accepted that SM or BD is not just about pain. Media hype & those not N the know, rely on heresay & unconfirmed reports. To illustrate a point, any dynamic between 2 individuals is based on a basic tenet of SM. 1 follows & 1 leads. The roles change throughout their interaction, but basically the common denominator is that both are okay with the dynamic-It's Mutually Respectful.

A couple hetero or homo will enage in sexual intercourse and 1 is always guiding, orchestrating or facilitating the positions. The position 1 assumes N the act is based on a passive or domineering behavioral role. For all those who get done or do, you choose that role at that given time, cause that works best for U. Feel what I"m saying?

SM is based on a code of Safe, Sane and Consensual. If both parties are not down & agree 2 the same guidelines, then it's not SM. You can then call it Rape, Abuse or whatever, but within the Leather Community it is considered some 'ill sh*t' & most are not feeling dat.

On a spiritual tip, SM is a mental journey 1 escapes N order 2 release hindin, unmentionable parts of the Pysche. It is the vehicle by which we experiment with new behavior thus broadening our capacity 2 feel as human beings. Some people work out, some do yoga, some smoke and 'L', whatever 1 does, it works 4 them. There R no rights or wrongs or reason 4 judgement. It is simply 1's personal preference 2 explore Mind, Body & Soul.

MY MANTRA

"I practice the universal solvent of sex, which means that labels slide off of me into the pool of affirmations & contradictions which I choose to call Myself"

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