LEXICON OF COMMON TERMS USED ON LOVING SWATS by Lucel, Clawkit & LD

1/6/2006

 

There are many types of discipline and discipline relationships.  The following definitions are offered to facilitate understanding and discussion, especially on the LovingSwats Yahoo List.

 

Please feel free to ask for clarification or to suggest your own terms and definitions.  This may be done either directly with LD or as an onlist discussion. 

 

Left Margin is Merriam-Webster 11th Edition Definition;

Mid-Page Margin with * before word is LovingSwats (or Discipline or Other Definition.)

 

Merriam-Webster (11th Edition) Definition

                        *LovingSwats (or Discipline or Other) Definition

 

Abuse (Noun) 1. corrupt practice or custom; 2. improper or excessive use or treatment (misuse); 3. language that condemns or vilifies unjustly, intemperately, and/or angrily; 4. physical maltreatment.

 

*Abuse (LS Noun) extreme punishments that cause lasting marks (for more than 24 hours) and/or excessive emotional distress.

 

Abuse (Verb) 1. to put to wrong or improper use; 2. to use excessively (drugs); 3. to injure or damage (maltreat); 4. to attack in words (revile).

 

*Abuse (LS Verb) to punish causing lasting physical marks (for more than 24 hours) and/or excessive emotional distress.

           

*BDSM (LS Noun) abbreviation for Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Sadism/Masochism or Sado-Masochism; may include discipline as a component, but discipline is not its primary purpose.

 

Bottom (Noun) 1. underside, support of something; 2. posterior end, buttocks, rump; 3. lowest part of something.

 

*Bottom (LS, Other Noun) 1. person being penetrated during sexual activity.

Note: 1. Bottom as a description of the passive/receiving partner during sex applies to any gender pairing.  This is a fairly recent extension of the meaning.

2. "Bottom" is not interchangeable with "Brat" in LS usage. (See "Brat" below.)

 

                        2. a submissive partner in BDSM activity/relationship.

Note: The term "bottom" is often capitalized on BDSM sites.  It is "submissive" (small ‘s')that is generally not capitalized, e.g. "D/s"…

Bottom (Verb) 1. to furnish with a bottom; 2. to provide a foundation for; 3. to reach a point where decline is halted.

 

*Bottom (LS, Other Verb) to receive penetration in sexual activity, most often in M/M relationship.

                                   

Brat (Noun) 1. a child, an ill-mannered child; 2. an ill mannered, immature person; 3. the child of a person in a specified career (military brat).

 

*Brat (LS Noun) denotes ‘junior partner' in a discipline partnership: takes an active part in deciding what rules and consequences will govern Discipline Partnership (DP), is equal to the Top in all respects, but defers to his judgment 24/7.

Note:  The term "Brat" is never used as a derogatory term and is not interchangeable with "bottom" or "sub". However, it can be used to express affection, sometimes tinged with exasperation and/or amusement.

 

*Brat (Other Noun) bottom in sexual activity or relationship or submissive (sub) to Dominant (Dom) in BDSM activity or relationship, usually a man (sometimes a woman).

 

*Brat (Other Verb) to misbehave on purpose to attract notice and discipline from Brat's Top.

Note: "Bratting" falls between serious misbehavior and flirting and teasing as a kind of foreplay. Brat's Top decides if this behavior merits punishment.  (Definition given for M/F relationship, but could apply to all couples in a discipline relationship.)

 

*Brat Fic or bratfic (LS, Other Noun) a sub category of fiction concerning DR couples:  often very stylized with incorrigible "sweet" or "smart" or "holy terror" brat transgressing in some ridiculous way requiring top to spank (and love) him.  Usually involves M/M, but can involve M/F, and perhaps other combinations.

 

Challenge - (Verb) 1. to demand as due or deserved; 2. to order to halt and prove identity; 3. to dispute, e.g. as outmoded or invalid; 4. to question formally he legality or legal qualifications of, e.g. a juror; 5. to confront or defy boldly: Dare; b. to call out to duel or combat; c. to invite into competition; 6. to arouse or stimulate, esp. by presenting with difficulties; 8. to make or present a challenge.

 

*Challenge (LS, Other Verb) to request a creative effort of some kind, either for a story or other written work, sometimes on a specified theme or including some specified element, from all members on the list. Can be made by the List Members individually or in combination, or by the administrators of the list (on LS, the LD or List Dictator).

 

Challenge (Noun) 1a.  Summons that is often threatening, provocative, stimulating, or inciting; b. invitation to compete in a sport;  2a.  A calling to account or into question: Protest; b. and exception made to a juror; c. a sentry's call to prove identity; d. a questioning of the right of a vote or voter; 3.  a stimulating task or problem; 4. the act of testing by provoking.

 

*Challenge (LS, Other Noun) a specific request for written  list activity, such as writing a story on the theme of Fall.

 

*Challenge (LS, Other Adjective) refers to result of list member's effort to respond to challenge, e.g. challenge story.

 

*Corner Time (LS, Other Noun) tool for discipline of brat or person in DR, requires person to stand in literal corner (or designated spot) for a period of time specified by top.

 

                        *DD (LS Noun) abbreviation for domestic discipline. (See below)

 

                        *DP (LS Noun) abbreviation for Discipline Partnership.  (See below)

 

                        *DR (LS Noun) abbreviation for Discipline Relationship.  (See below.)

 

*Daddy/boy (LS, Other Noun) primarily a leather community term for a power exchange relationship that involves a lesser degree of Domination/submission than a Master/slave relationship, it refers to an m/m relationship incorporating respect, obedience, long term commitment, and care. Though a Daddy may be younger than his boy, a Daddy is usually a care giver and mentor. The two men create a durable family unit, but both Daddy and boy may elect to form closer romantic and sexual relationships with others and live separate lives, while still depending on the commitment and support of their Daddy/boy relationship.

 

Discipline (Noun) 1. punishment; 2. instruction; 3. a field of study; 4. training that corrects, molds, or perfects mental faculties or moral character; 5. control gained by enforcing obedience or order;         6. orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior; 7. self-control; 8. a rule or system of rules governing conduct or activity.

 

*Discipline (LS Noun) punishment for the purpose of training or correction, including, but not limited to corporal punishment such as spanking or paddling:  can include learning or writing lines, corner time, extra chores, grounding, timeouts, and loss of privileges.

Note:  Extreme punishments that cause lasting marks (for more than 24 hours) or excessive emotional distress are considered abuse.

 

Discipline (Verb) 1. to punish or penalize for the sake of discipline; 2.to train or develop by instruction and exercise, esp. in self control; 3. to bring a group under control; 4. to impose order upon.

 

*Discipline (LS Verb) 1. to administer punishment to a Brat (by Brat's Top) when rules of Discipline Relationship are broken; 2. to train or exercise Brat (by Brat's Top); 3. to bring Brat under Top's control; 4. to impose order upon Brat's life 24/7 (by Brat's Top).

 

*Discipline Partnership (LS Noun) or "DP" relationship similar to marriage between two or more (rare to include more than two) people (Top and Brat) who are equals; along with love and commitment, incorporates the interrelating needs of Top and Brat; the Top to be ‘in charge'--the head of the household--responsible for all decisions and the discipline by the Top (or Tops) of one or more partners for 24/7, and the Brat to agree to be disciplined and submit to the Top 24/7 according to the terms each partnership agrees upon together. 

 

Note:  Rules and possible consequences (including physical) are discussed and negotiated in advance, and all persons are free to end the relationship at any time.  No one can compel another person to stay in any type of relationship, and, just as in all relationships, all persons in a DP are free to re-define and renegotiate the relationship at any time. 

 

*Discipline Relationship (LS Noun) or "DR" relationship of two or more people that includes discipline as one of its primary components.

 

                        Note: a DP is a DR, but a DR is not necessarily a DP.

 

 

 

Dom (Noun) abbreviation.  1. domestic, 2. dominant, 3. dominion.

 

*Dom (LS, Other Noun) abbreviation for Dominant, that is, senior person in relationship of two or more persons with the other person or persons being submissive.  Dom is capitalized.  Most often used in BDSM type relationship.

 

Dominance (Noun) fact or state of being dominant especially in a social hierarchy.

 

Dominant (Adjective)  1. commanding, controlling, or prevailing over all others; 2. very important, powerful, or successful; 3. exerting a marked influence; 4. applies to an element or factor or person whose influence outweighs all others.

 

Dominant (Noun) Dominant individual in a social hierarchy.

 

*Dominant (LS, Other Noun) refers to the senior person in a relationship of two or more persons, the one who makes the decisions for the group.  Not necessarily capitalized.

 

Dominate (Verb) 1. rule, control; 2.  to exert the supreme determining or guiding influence on; 3. to occupy a superior position; to have or exert mastery.

 

Dominator (Noun) dominating person or thing (e.g. gene)

Domination (Noun) 1.  supremacy or preeminence over another; 2. exercise of mastery or ruling power; 3. exercise of preponderant, governing, or controlling influence.

 

Dominatrix (Noun) 1. woman who physically or psychologically dominates her partner in a sadomasochistic encounter.

 

Domestic (Adjective) 1. a) living near or about human habitation; b) within a country, esp. one's own country; 2. of or relating to the household or the family; 3. devoted to home duties and pleasures; 4.  indigenous.

 

*Domestic Discipline (LS, Other Noun) or "DD"  discipline as a component of the relationship of two (or more) people living together with a designated Top or HOH (Head of Household).

 

Domestic Partner [or Partnership] (Noun) 1. a company or person esp. in a developing country that joins in a commercial venture with an international company.  2. either one of an unmarried heterosexual or homosexual cohabiting couple esp. when considered as to eligibility for spousal benefits.

 

*F/F (LS, Other Noun) abbreviation for a (sexual) relationship between two women.

           

Feedback (Noun) 1. the return to the imput of a part of the output of a machine, system, or process (to improve the process); 2a. the partial reversion of the effects of a process to its source or to preceding stage; b. the transmission of evaluative or corrective information about an action, event, or process to the original, controlling source, the information so transmitted.

 

*Feedback (LS, Other Noun) the practice of commenting on a list member/author's work to criticize and/or compliment the work. "Feedback" is a newer online term which has replaced LOC (letter of comment/criticism).

 

Fiction (Noun)  1. something invented by the imagination, an invented story;  2. fictitious literature; 3. a useful illusion or pretense; 4. the action of feigning or of creating with the imagination.

 

                        *Fic (LS, Other Noun) abbreviation for amateur works of fiction created for                 internet publication;  usually written in an area of specific interest, e.g. concerning Discipline Relationships or using characters created for a specific television or movie universe.

 

                        *Gen (LS, Other Adjective) abbreviation denoting non-sexual relationship.

 

Ground (Verb) 1. to bring to or place on the ground; 2. to restrict to the ground (a pilot); 3. to prohibit from taking part in some usual activities…

 

*Ground (LS Verb) top restricts brat to specific area and/or set of activities as punishment.

 

Kink (Noun) 1. a short tight twist or curl caused by a doubling or winding of something upon itself; 2. a mental or physical peculiarity, eccentricity or quirk, whim; 3. a clever or unusual way of doing something; 4. a cramp in some part of the body; 5. an imperfection likely to cause difficulties in the operation of something; 6. unconventional sexual taste or behavior.

 

Line (Noun) …2. a horizontal row of written or printed characters; 3. a unit in the rhythmical structure of verse; 4. a short letter or note;  5. the words making up part of a drama…

*Lines (LS Noun) ordered words top uses as discipline for brat, can require written repetitions or memorization.

 

*LOC (LS, Other Noun) abbreviation for letter of comment/criticism, which was written to comment on a list member/author's work to criticize and/or compliment the work and which has been replaced by Feedback, a newer online term (see above).

 

Marriage (Noun) 1.  a. the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law; b. the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage (same-sex marriage); c. the mutual relation of married persons (wedlock); d. institution whereby individuals are joined in marriage; e. wedding ceremony and attendant festivities;  f. An intimate or close union.

 

                        *OC (LS, Other Noun) abbreviation for an original character in fiction.

 

Partner (Noun)   1.  one associated with another, especially in action (associate, colleague; 2. either of two people who dance together; 3. one or more people who play together in a game against an opposing side; 4. a person with whom one shares an intimate relationship, one member of a couple; 5. one member of a business partnership.

 

*Partner (LS, Other Noun) any member of a committed, long term relationship of two (a couple) or more sharing sexual and domestic needs together. Usually refers to men, but can include M/W and W/W; includes people in marriage and DP relationships. 

*Public Humiliation (LS Noun) brat chastisement or use of discipline in front of other people:  intended to embarrass or humiliate Brat as further punishment. Note: Not acceptable in a DP.

 

*Safe Word (Other Noun) term previously selected to indicate that the bottom or sub needs a halt in punishment to discuss the situation or feelings.

 

*Sub (LS, Other Noun) abbreviation referring to submissive person in a relationship that includes a Dominant.  More often used when discussing BDSM relationships, usually not capitalized.

 

Submission (Noun) 1. the act of submitting something for consideration or inspection; 2. the condition of being submissive, humble or compliant; 3. submitting to the control or the authority of another.

 

Submissive (Adjective) submitting to others.

 

*Submissive (LS, Other Noun) person in a relationship who submits to the authority of a Dominant person.  Most often used in discussing BDSM relationships.

 

Top (Noun) 1. highest point, level or part of something: summit, crown; 2. a fitted, integral, or attached part of unit serving as an upper piece, lid, or covering; 3. the highest degree or pitch conceivable or attained: acme, pinnacle; 4.  the highest position as in rank or achievement; 5. the choicest part: cream, pick; 6. a person in control, informed about (on top of his job); 7. person in position of eminent success, happiness, or fame.

 

*Top (LS Noun) partner and decision maker in discipline partnership; decides when rules have been broken, what the consequences will be, and how to carry out the discipline.

 

*Top (Other Noun) dominant in sexual activity or relationship (usually male); antonym for "bottom" or "sub" in a BDSM-type or other sexual relationship; does not carry the same meaning as in a DP; may be head of household.

 

Top (Verb)   1. to remove or cut the top of an item: pinch top of plant; 2. to cover, provide protective finish or final touch; 3. to resupply or refill to capacity; 4. to finish structure: cap a building; 5. to bring to an end or climax: topped off the sports meet with; 6. to be or become higher than, to be superior; 7. to gain ascendancy over: dominate; w8. to make an end, finish, conclusion; 9. to reach a summit or crest.

*Top (LS Verb) to act as head of household or decision maker in Discipline Partnership, including loving discipline of partner or partners.

 

                        *Top (Other Verb) to be the person who penetrates in a sexual coupling.

 

Vanilla (Adjective) l. flavored with vanilla; 2. lacking distinction, plain, ordinary, conventional.

 

*Vanilla (LS Adjective) denotes any ordinary or conventional relationship, sexual position or practice, social activity, or belief or belief system.  

 

 

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