Foundations For Your Child

Accept your child as a gift from God and who he/she really is. Everyone has different personalities and different minds of their own. Don't try to make your child a mirrow image of you or someone who is famous in sports, music, etc., but help develop them to do good, love God, love others and be themselves. It is our responsibility to show them the right way to live and come to know God. Train them to respect you and your wife/husband and brothers/sisters and others. PRAY EVERYDAY for them and don't forget!!! They WILL need it throughout their lives just as we do.
Do what is right in the eyes of our God and Lord.
Read (Psalm 127:3)

When you accept the gift of a child, then you are in partnership with God to help your child grow and raise the child in which he/she should go. This is a point of parenting that will provide the environment that will meet the needs of any age of the child as they mature into an adult and have children themselves.

Unconditional love for your child.

This love does accept the child as he/she really is and their type of personality. Be happy for whom the child is and will be. With your love, help and understanding this child will grow up to be a happy person and one to be proud of whom they have become. Remember when you were a child how you felt? If you had the loving parents who accepted you? Did your parents support you and help you when things went wrong? Our Father in Heaven accepts us the way we are and doesn't unclaim us when we are bad or don't do what He would love for us to do. This is called unconditional love . Are you a child of His?
If not you can be. Need help? Visit the Basics page.

Keep communication open with your child.

Take the time and effort to listen to your child.
Things that seem small or not important to us
are sometimes very big and important to your child.
Do you let their friends or strangers listen to them more than you do?

Do they get their ideas from the t.v.?
Is the t.v. your baby-sitter?
Notice how things are said and done on the t.v.
Is this what you really want out of your child?
A personality like those shown on the t.v.?

Watch your child and monitor what they watch on the t.v.!

Take time with your child and talk. You will be amazed at the knowledge they have bottled up inside waiting to be un-capped.

Safe environment for your child.

It is very important that your child feel safe. Make sure their needs are met in a loving and caring way. Do things for your child that he/she cannot do for themselves. Discipline should be done by BOTH parents. Children have a way at times at playing the parents against each other so they can have their own way. This is where rules and responsibility are given to the child and each parent should have that communication between themselves, to know what is going on in their child lives. Today we have more single parents and the children are left to themselves too much. Parents take responsibility for your actions as well as your childs. Remember children perceive and deal with their feelings according to the way their parents deal with their own feelings and actions.

Love your child and be the best parent you can be.

This is YOUR responsibility.

The Child Alone

A child sits alone day after day. He has no plans or a place to stay.
In being left alone there is no happiness or relief, only sadness and the grief.
There are no fancy clothes to wear, just the ones that you will share.
The only toys that are around, are the ones that were only found.
There are no meals with family or friends, because this child is left alone for himself to defend.
He eats whatever he can find or steal, for him this is his only meal.
We take for granted what we have or show.
For this child heartbreak is all he knows.
Whenever you feel lonely or sad, be thankful you're not this little lad.
Think of the many children left all alone.
Who fend for themselves, who live without a home.

© JLC May 1995

The Abused Child

Listen, listen. Can you hear him cry?
Listen, listen, for I won't tell you a lie.
The parents who make him suffer for loss or gain, show this child nothing only pain.
This abused child that suffers you see, needs help, not from just you or me.
Listen, listen. Can you hear him cry?
Listen, listen, for what I'm saying is no lie.
This child is slapped, kicked, thrown or burned.
Each abusive parent sometimes takes a turn.
Where he lives there is no happiness or relief.
Only the hurt, pain, sadness and grief.
For this child heartbreak is all he knows.
This kind of childhood will follow him where ever he goes.
This child hurts and feels so alone.
All he wants is to live in a happy home.
Listen, listen, for his pain is no lie.
Listen, listen, can you hear him cry?
But someone you say has let this child down.
His bruised face holds nothing but a frown.
Someone should take an upper hand.
Someone should do something you demand!
When will that someone come along,
put the abusive parents where they belong?
Away from this child who hurts night and day.
Find for him a happy home, a loving place to stay.
Listen, listen, do you hear him cry?
Or will nothing be done and he's left in this home to DIE!

© JLC May 1995



We need to help turn this child's tears into HAPPINESS!


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