I know that I have gotten your attention and curiousity going
on what I could have on this page, that is for men. Well, it is
something very serious and close to my heart. It is something
that is not published enough or talked about. It is something
that alot of people know nothing about........does not know it
exists. But is very serious.  I have seen it, lived through it and,
you might say, an expert on. Not a medical expert, but a "living
it" expert. In fact, I cannot find any links, to add to this page,
on the subject. What little medical information I have, is from
my own doctor.  Most men will not admit he has a problem.
They blame it on everyone else. So, this is really for anyone
who will listen. I hope that something on this page will help
someone, if they are going through something like what is
described below.
   We all have heard the expression "he is going through the
middle age crazies". Well, this is in fact a medical problem.
Women go through menapause.....so do men. Women go
through it as a natural phase in their life. Women have
hormons and other aids to help them in this natural process.
But few people know that men can go through the same
thing, they just don't have the tools or information to help
them. Alot of men don't even know that this exists.
   Men that go through this, think they are losing their minds,
they feel as if they are the only ones that has ever felt this
way. They feel like they are empty inside and that their world
has come to an end. So, they think they have to go out and do
everything they feel like they have missed out on. They feel
very insecure, unloved.........they become very selfish.
   It is almost perdictable, the stages they will go through.
It will destroy homes, marriages, relationships, careers and
lives.
   They will have to distance themselves as soon as they can,
because being around the ones that love them, make them
feel very guilty. They want to run away from anything that has
to do with responsibility. And if they are a drinker, it becomes
worse, even if they have been just a social drinker.  And they
will turn away from most of their old friends, and make new
ones. Their old friends, know them too well.  They turn away
from anyone who really knows them and loves them.
   Some men will come out of this in a few years, but some
never return to their former selves.  But if they do come out
of it, they are shocked at what they have done to their lives
and their loved ones.
   Some men, like some women, do not go through this
drastic change. But the ones that do, it is a horrible thing
to watch. These men do a 360* change in their personalities.
It seems like, whatever their personality was, they do their
best to completely do the opposite. I watched a very loving,
caring and giving man, turn into a person that did things
intentionally to hurt the people he loved and actually turn his
back on his family and friends. He wanted to hurt his loved
ones, because he felt so guilty of what he was thinking and
feeling on the inside.
   I hope in some way this can help just one person. If a man
starts feeling like this, he is not going crazy and he is not
losing his mind, get some help. Other men have gone through
this too and came out okay. But these men have to find some
one to talk to, a doctor, a minister or a counselor. This is a
normal thing that a man can go through.
   If anyone reading this knows of someone going through
this; please try and talk to them; assure them, they are not
alone in this, others have gone through it and came out on
the other side, without destroying everything or everyone,
that they have loved.
   Just like women, the average age to go through this is
40-50 years of age.