An instance that serves as an example of th L-I-S-T-E-N method is illustrated in my decision to attend St. Louis University High School. It started in the summer of my eighth grade graduation from Loyola Academy. Prior to my graduation and a long conversation with my parents, the conclusion followed that I would make the decision of the school fulfilled my idea of a dream high school. The college preperatory school was one that was well known for their athletic history and established as a co-ed school. Coming from an all boys middle school this asset was a plus. In addition to this, the population of the student body was predominately African American, which in my thoughts made it easier to relate to various aspects. However, this would not come to past as a drastic change would occur.

A phone call initiated that change from the school that I thought I would be attending. I received word from my parents that, due to the late admission and the fact that the incoming freshman had reached its full capacity, I would not be able to attend. The news that was received seemed to me, in that time period, a purposed rejection. As anger arose within, the aspect of grief arose as well. Previously I was aware of SLUH and the acceptance I was granted. However, it did not fit the school of what I thought I should embark upon. It meant four years of high school at an all-boys school, of which I knew little about their athletic history. In addition to this the students were not predominately African American. It seemed to be the exact opposite of the school of choice. From these pre-conceived assumptions or notions the idea of attending Sluh did not illustrate fulfillment.

Though these assumptions clouded my mindset many conversations occured between individuals within my family and youth leaders within my Church. Significantly enough these words of wisdom did not lead to arguments or hard feelings as they exemplified an understanding attitude towards the point of view. However, they also were aware of the benefits that will result from attending such a school. Through there experiences within society they were able to advise one of such benefits. The aspect of expanding ones horizons was important and could be practiced in such an atmosphere as Sluh. Willingly I realized the personal quality and character of adjusting to my surroundings in an effort to focus on how it would serve as beneficial. It was also of importance to attend a school that would aid future admission into a prestigious college. I attended Direction Days, a recreational atmosphere for incoming freshman to fellowship, as an act of expanding my horizons through the participation in many activities.

Through the examination of this instance the steps within the L-I-S-T-E-N method are highlighted. The first, "Look for the Facts", is illustrated after first disregarding the pre-conceived notions, in an effort to focus on what is seen as reality. By actively participating in Direction Days, one had the ability to rely on accurate information about an all-boys establishment rather than accepting faulty information. The second, "Imagine the Possibilities", is exemplified through the act of realizing the benefits such as a sense of diversity, rather than limiting oneself to a one-race establishment. Though there are many advantages that lie within that realm, by attending Sluh it presents a more immediate encounter. The next, "Seek insight beyond your own", is highlighted through the willingness to receive advice from family and youth leaders. In doing so the expression of humbleness is experienced. In addition one recognizes that the "experience, energy, and expertise of others", is beneficial. The following process, "Turn inward", emphasizes the personal examination indicated within this instance. By realizing personal qualites and utilizing them as a means of reflection, supports this idea of turning inward. In addition, by reflecting on the benefits that result from such an acceptance, further supports the idea of internal growth. The fifth, "Expect God's Help", serves as the most important step within the L-I-S-T-E-N process. It also illustrates a universal theme within this instance. Though anger and dissapointment was experienced, as self-reflection continued belief in God exceeded those aspects. Essentially by accepting advise from family and maintaining the belief that God is within you, this action plays a vital role. The last, "Name your decision", illustrates just that in this instance. By formulating a decision to attend a school that is beneficial it supports the process of namin a decision. By taking ownership of the decision to attend Sluh and accepting the responsibility of the challenge, naming the decision is exemplified.