She has been thinking a lot of the issue of safety. In her mind, the most important feature is to keep yourself in check. It's easy to let emotions overwhelm us. The girls that come here are in a vulnerable position. They are taught to obey, obey or fail. Yet, in between those lines, this one still hears the words of caution that are echoed by all. Be careful, use your head, know them before you meet, check them out, talk to others they have met.

The online venue makes it overly easy for people to be more than they truly are. It makes it possible for them to be grand and large, with few human frailties. Yet, in some ways, with some people, it makes it easy to know the real person. After all, most people that you first meet in face to face situations, you reveal very little of your inner soul. Here, it's not uncommon for people to express themselves. For them to reveal that secret self that takes so long to know from other types of first meetings. Here, where the written word is our medium, people tend to either express the deeper recesses of themselves or to build themselves into something that they may wish or aspire to be but have not what it takes to actually reach for and obtain. In fact, some have no intention of ever reaching for something they are not, to this type, the net is merely a way to lure their unsuspecting victims.

Bearing all of this in mind, she would advice you to take your time. To reach into yourself and "know thyself" as the saying goes. Why does this person attract you? Is it because they truly represent your ideal of being Gorean? Is it because you lack something inside yourself and you are so desperate to be accepted, to be loved, that you would grasp any hand that reaches out to you, seeing it as a life line? Is it because you feel whole and this person somehow completes you? Is this person real? Ask yourself that, not once but several times. Can you call them at home, at work? Can you call them at odd hours and reach them? Will they give you their drivers license number so you can check it out? That may sound extreme, but, when you are meeting someone that nobody else knows, believe me, it's not. Check and double check. If others have actually met them, spent time with them offline, then talk to them. Ask questions, lots of questions. If this person is from a community that you know nothing about and you know none of the people there, personally. Then take your time and do your homework. Life is far to short by itself to have it end needlessly.

Another point that she feels is important is for each of us to examine ourselves. There are times when crisis hits, when our lives are not going perfectly. It's often in these times that we throw caution to the wind and we take giant leaps without forethought. When you are the most vulnerable, when you thoughts are muddy and your not sure where to place your next step, we often do things rashly, things we would have never done in our moments of clarity. When you find yourselves in this position, use caution. There are men that would take advantage of that perceived vulnerability. Some that are not what they seem. Use caution, let your eyes open fully and truly examine those tiny nagging danger signs. More often then not they will be there, but we tend to overlook them, especially when we are not at our highest points. Pay them heed. Examine the situation from all angles and strive to not let your need cloud your mind.