Be careful, however, if you curl your lips over
your teeth too far and you have really rough stubble from not shaving, then you
still might cause your partner quite a bit of pain. The trick is to avoid rubbing, or scraping your partner's cock with anything that might be
unpleasant.
Commonly the most sensitive areas on a guy's cock
are the rim of the cock head, the tip, the top side of the cockhead, and at
times the bottom side of the shaft.
A good way to stimulate the rim of the cockhead
is to form a tight ring around the cock with your lips, and to repeatedly let
the rim of the cockhead force it's way through that ring as you suck him.
Another way is to repeatedly swirl your tongue around the rim.
This method is also good for stimulating the tip
of the cockhead. You can tease him with your tongue by flicking it across the
tip as you suck him, you can even tease the slit at the top of his cock. Some
guys, however, tend to be TOO sensitive there, so
it may not be too pleasurable for them to have their slit played with. As always
look for your partner's feedback.
To stimulate the top
side of the cockhead during a blowjob, swirl your tongue around it on each top
stroke. Try occasionally turning your head clockwise and counterclockwise as you
bob up and down while sucking him.
To stimulate the bottom
side of the shaft, extend your tongue inside your mouth as much as you can
without breaking the tight seal, and then firmly press your tongue against the
shaft as you bob up and down sucking him.
Positions are also a key to giving a good
blowjob. Naturally you want to get as much of his cock as you can inside your
mouth.
If your partner's cock curves upward
towards his stomach, you may get a better response from him if you turn your
body in such a way so that the curve of his cock matches
the curve of your throat. Sort of like one half of a 69 position, where it seems
like his cock could just slip down your throat with out a problem. Like this.
If your partner's cock curves downward towards his
feet, then being between his legs, on your stomach,
or on your knees will work really well for him. It
will also make it easier and more enjoyable for you.
Another decision you want to make is, whether
your partner should be standing, sitting, or laying down on his back. Different
guys have different responses, and sometimes different
degrees of erection depending on which position they're in.
Another good position is for you to be on the bed
flat on your back with your head tilted back. He should be standing
above you by the edge of the bed sliding his cock
in and out of your mouth.
You should also use your hands during a blowjob.
Some guys have problems staying really erect during a blowjob. It helps in this
case to grip his cock firmly with one hand, make a ring around it with your
index finger and thumb and place your hand at the base of his cock squeezing the
base of the shaft, this usually makes his cock a little harder. Some guys get
harder if you use a couple of fingers to press against the hard area just below his balls.
Another way to stimulate the rim of the cockhead is to make a tight ring with your
index finger and thumb around his cock just in front of your mouth, and as you
go up on each stroke, let the rim of the cockhead pass through it. Be sure your
fingers are slippery though, for easier friction.
You can stimulate the whole
shaft by stroking it with your hand in rhythm with your sucking.
A fun part of a blowjob can be having your balls
played with. Be gentle though. Some guys love to have their balls played with,
licked and sucked during a blowjob. Be careful when sucking on your partner's
balls. To some it's a very sensitive area, and it can hurt quite
a bit even with minor stimulation.
When in doubt stick to licking, and gently
nibbling on the ball sack. If he has balls of steel and can take anything, then
by all means go to town on him.
The 69 position can be fun,
cause you're both getting pleasure at the same time. The traditional
position, with one guy on his back and the other on top of him, almost never works. The guy on top can suck without a
problem, but it's difficult for the guy on the bottom to give an effective
blowjob.
The best position for 69ing is on your side. You
line your self up so that each of you is at the crotch level of the other, then
slide your arm under his bottom leg, and vice versa. This lets you get your arm
in a more comfortable position. It usually helps to lift your top leg and bend
it at the knee, allowing your partner more access to your crotch. If your
partner in a 69 position is pretty experienced - look for what he's doing and
imitate him.
When on the receiving
end of a blowjob, you may be tempted to start thrusting your hips and fucking
his face with your cock. That's all fine and well, however, it often prevents your partner from doing what he does so well.
Grabbing the back of his head and pushing your cock inside his mouth can be a
fun power trip from a visual standpoint, but it rarely makes it fun for your partner. Hence the T-shirt
slogan:
"Let go of my ears, I know what I'm doing."
A really nice touch can be stroking your partner's hair, neck and face while
he's sucking you, this lets him know that you're enjoying
this and appreciate him.
Deep throating is
something that feels really good for your partner, but can be quite a chore for
you. I myself, have not yet perfected my skills in this area, but I can on
occasion deep throat someone. The trick to getting that cock down your throat (down your esophagus, not down your trachea) is to keep
pushing your head forward, and opening your mouth and sliding your tongue out as
much as you can. Do not try to suck him while deep throating, it's impossible.
Another very helpful tip is - if you're going to do this, be sure you do it on
an EMPTY stomach. It has happened that deep
throating triggers the gag reflex, and suddenly you may find yourself with a
portion of your lunch or dinner in your mouth as you're giving someone a
blowjob. This is not a very pleasant experience.
Also, don't always expect your partner to cum
from receiving a blowjob. Sometimes this rarely happens. Blowjobs feel really
good, but getting off on them can sometimes be
rare.
There are several psychological
factors that may come into play here: degree of arousal, environment,
performance anxiety, nervousness, circumstance and so on.
Sometimes it can simply be a matter of physiology - meaning that some guys' cocks just aren't as
sensitive as others and require great amounts of
stimulation to cum. A guy's inability to orgasm
from your blow-job is not necessarily a direct
reflection of your cock sucking abilities.
If your situation allows it, and you think your ego can handle it, try asking your partner for completely
honest feedback on this one.
If you're determined
to get him off, but it just doesn't seem to be
happening, and your jaw feels like it's going to fall off - THEN TAKE A BREAK! If you keep going despite your fatigue, you can be pretty sure that your
partner is going to pick up on your growing sense
of personal frustration, and it will be that much more
difficult for him to get off.
In my case if someone can get me off just by sucking me, then I consider him to be exceptional
at giving head. Usually it's been a combination of a guy using his mouth and his hands to do the trick.
If your partner is going to cum during a blowjob,
it's up to you to decide whether to swallow his load or not. Since this is not a site about safe/safer sex I won't launch
into any exhaustive lectures about risky behavior, risk factors, etc. Suffice it
to say that it's up to you to assess the risk of
any given situation.
Personally, I find it erotic when someone swallows my load, and most guys also
get a rush from experiencing this. Though, personally I usually don't like the
taste of cum, if I'm really into the person I'm with, I love to swallow. Like I
said, you need to make this call. One thing should
be noted, the taste of your partner's cum will vary, depending on what he's had
to eat, and drink earlier.
Being uncut, I thought I would offer a few more tips
for dealing with uncut cocks.
Some guys who are cut, are apprehensive about
uncut cocks. Don't be! Look at it as an added bonus, and an added chance to make your partner
squirm with pleasure.
Quite a few cut guys loudly proclaim that they
find uncut cocks so much fun to play with! These days the number of circumcised
men who have a fetish for uncut men/cocks is startlingly large and growing.
Guys who are uncut are generally MUCH MUCH more sensitive than cut guys. You can't always
give uncut guys the same rough treatment that you've been giving your other
partners. The most common problem I encounter, is
my partner pulling the skin of the cock too far down to the point that it is painful. The
foreskin is attached to the cockhead, so be
careful. Teeth can also be a big problem for me. It can be rather awkward when
you're in a situation and your partner is trying to give you pleasure, but he is
instead hurting you.
With uncut guys, the cockhead, and its rim are generally the most sensitive areas. Sliding your
tongue between the foreskin and cockhead can give him waves of pleasure.
Swirling the tip of your tongue between the retracted
foreskin and the rim of his cockhead can feel wonderful!
Some guys have really sensitive foreskins, so an
added bonus for them would be to have it played with, either with your tongue,
or nibbled on gently. If your partner has a foreskin that's not too tight, you
can take a moist finger place it on the cockhead and roll the foreskin over it
so it covers your finger. You can then gently move your finger around in the a
circular motion. This feels really good. If you're not sure how to do this, ask
you partner if he's ever done this, and ask him to show you.
Some uncut guys have really tight foreskins that
do not completely retract over the cockhead. Do not
try to force it, because they will yelp in pain.
Like with any sexual experience,
when giving head, look for your partner's reaction, if he's responding in a good
way, then keep doing what you're doing. If he looks like he's ready to watch
some TV, then obviously what you're doing to him doesn't feel that good. If you
get the opportunity, talk to him and ask him which areas of his cock are really
sensitive, and what feels good to him.
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ENJOY!
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