The key to good kissing is to actively use your lips. I've kissed guys that didn't use their lips at all. They would just tense up their lips and leave them like that. It felt like I was trying to kiss a statue. Relax or at least, make a mental effort to relax, your lips. Allow them to be soft and pliable. As you start to kiss, try gently brushing your partner's cheek with them, or run them along his neck just barely making contact with his skin. Don't be afraid to use your breath. Nothing gets me hotter than feeling someone's warm breath on my neck, or someone gently (and I mean gently) blowing in my ear. It always sends goose bumps down my neck, back, and arms. This type of gentle foreplay with your partner is extremely sensual, and builds up sexual tension. It can also serve to establish nonverbal communication between the two of you. His reactions to this sort of foreplay will give your first indications of his overall sexual responsiveness. When you use your tongue on his neck, gently run
it around his earlobe and ear.
If you feel like it, suck on his earlobe - but not
his ear. You may want to cover his entire ear with
your mouth and gently exhale. Try not to inhale
while doing this, and don't exhale too quickly because the rushing air will make him feel like he's in a wind tunnel.
Let your partner accept the tip of your tongue
into his mouth, and vice versa. As you get more intense try sucking lightly on your partner's tongue - be careful not to suck too hard, making him feel like you're trying to rip his tongue from his mouth.
Always be aware of
your teeth. It's not really pleasant to be French
kissing someone and feeling his teeth scrape the area around your mouth. Though
teeth can effectively be used for fun. A light bite or nibble on your partner's
chin can be a display of passionate sexual aggression :-)
I've found that most guys kiss with their eyes
closed. Ignore the impulse to close your eyes when kissing and try opening them
occasionally. It adds a new perspective to the experience.
Some commonly sensitive areas are - love handles, the insides of thighs, the belly button, nipples, armpits, the small of the back, backs of knees, and so on. The "hot spots" vary greatly from one guy to another, as do degrees of sensitivity. Again, closely read his feedback, or he may end up being bored when you're earnestly doing your best to stimulate him. Once again don't be afraid to use your imagination - be creative, be playful, have fun with it. If you make an effort to be in-tune with your partner, chances are he'll return the favor and both of you will have a better time. If you're a guy that says, "kissing is not my thing", then you've just wasted about 5 to 10 minutes of your time reading this.
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