Surviving the death of a child is quite a task. When the child is lost during pregnancy or soon thereafter, it is very hard for others to understand the enormous grief we have to deal with. Because in most instances no one has seen the child, it is easy for them to diminish their existence and we're supposed to get over it quickly and have another baby. But even if another baby will fill the void left by the child that died, there will always be an empty place in our hearts. We will never forget the child we lost, and we shouldn't. He or She is part of us, and always will be. As time goes by the pain will change, and somewhat lessen, but it is an individual journey, with no specific stages. The destination is as different and as individual as we are. Here's some places on the Web that help grieving parents, and offer words of comfort. Some even bring parents together. It is my hope that you will find at least one of these sites as useful as I have.

Miscellaneous Sites

ERICHAD

SIDS Network Pregnancy/Infant loss stories and insights

SHARE National Office

M.I.S.S. Mothers in Sympathy and Support

12 Truths regarding perinatal loss

A Place to Remember

Toni's Angel Pages Stories and links

The Compassionate Friends National Chapter

Usenet Newsgroup soc.support.pregnancy.loss

Nicholas Green Remembered

Don't Tell Me That You Understand

Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know.
Don't tell me that I will survive, how I will surely grow.
Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed.
That I am chosen for the task, apart from all the rest.
Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me,
Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.
Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie,
Don't tell me how to grieve, don't tell me when to cry.
My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see,
But I need you and your love...Unconditionally.
Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share,
Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say, "My friend, I care."

Author Unknown

Don't waste time worrying about the future: Worry won't change a thing.

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