My Ideologies

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It is simply a fact, being spanked like a child can be very distressing and upsetting for a grown woman. So too however, personal misfortune shall be mitigated, all or in part, by various feelings of exhilaration, excitement, and perhaps some form or another of arousal. The spanking itself, in some real way represents the pleasure of that time as well. There may be so much as the addition of an immature but viable reason for tears… a hurt bottom. And along with that, goes it being a simple, instinctive, even primitive lesson in behavior. It is that comfort, that moment of feeling the complete, primitive control of someone else.

Spanking - that personal form of discipline and correction. Role-play too is cool. There is nothing quite like the feel of the bottom bent over the knee, bottom arched upwards, quivering in fear and anticipation, providing a very unique perspective and feeling, psychologically and physically, both to the spanker and spankee.

Being spanked is the way to a full release of anxieties, tensions, frustrations and stresses, that otherwise plague one’s daily life in so many ways. It has been said before, but it is indeed true that for a great many women there is nothing quite like a good cry to restore their balance and feeling in control of their lives, and for them there is no better way to arrive at or achieve that good cry than being put across their mentor’s lap, having their skirts raised and then being soundly and royally spanked either on the seat of their underpants or their bare bottoms. It’s like a big thunderstorm—everything gets dark, the skies rage, the wind roars, the rain pours down, everything is drenched, and hell breaks loose, so to speak, and then everything is fresh and clean and clear, like never before.

Maybe it results from the freedom one feels to give up control – something that one can’t always feel in real life, but the spanking experience builds confidence, the ability to face fears, and in a strange way, grace. And if a relationship can advance this far, provided this is what both desire, then this I think, is the most special element that can be manifested from and during a discipline session, the very special moment of one feeling very loved and secure.

Discipline involves and expresses a wide array of emotions and reasoning, subjectivity and objectivity. It’s fair to acknowledge and accept the extent to which eroticism underlies and permeates almost every aspect of spanking, especially spankings given by men to women. Embarrassment perhaps is an important part of making a disciplinary spanking effective. Humiliation inherent in the act of being spanked to assure proper punishment may also be necessary. However, permanent degradation isn’t what spanking is about.

Every thing that encompasses a spanking --- the nervousness beforehand, the genuine and real shock and surprise, the feelings of embarrassment and the positive, explicit realization that you’ve done something to warrant a spanking, these feelings of shame and embarrassment, the humiliation, the pain--- serves to intensify the feeling of release and breaking of tensions that result from a spanking.

Simply put, you might cry not only because your bottom hurts but also because you have been naughty, know it, and feel ashamed. It’s crying really all about repentance? Not the pain from the spanking, but the shame and sorrow for having done something to hurt or damage yourself, someone else, or the integrity of a boundary.

Crying is very personal and for many, tears don’t come easy, but when they do, they impart an amazing sensation of relief. Trust and respect are essential for this reaction to transpire. Have you ever looked forward to being disciplined (spanked to tears?) by someone that you care deeply about and who cares deeply about you one day? It seems that otherwise, one can only imagine the catharsis and cleaning of the soul that can be experienced and enjoyed from a good cry, resulting from punishment (perhaps a punishment spanking?).

If you are naughty, then do you lose the vast majority of rights normally accorded to an adult?

Is the consequence of behaving in an anything-but-adult-and-like ladylike manner to be returned, however briefly, to the status of being a child again and treated accordingly? Does the first swat drive home the inescapable fact that you had behaved in a fundamentally childish manner and had temporarily forfeited the right to be treated with anything like the respect and dignity due to a grown, mature woman?

Could the foreseen intensity of your repentance, perhaps best expressed in the form of crying and sobbing, tell you that this is a reaction to more than the transitory pain, but indeed, more of a reaction to the shame and sorrow you feel due to having done something to hurt or damage yourself, someone else, or the integrity of a boundary?

Is not the purpose of a spanking to produce a very hot and sore bottom, accompanied by a sobering, but temporary, loss of dignity and decorum, rather than the utter humiliating and humbling of the misbehaving lady?

In the end, one can enjoy a warm, pleasant, peaceful state of relief and relaxation, as there is a sense of closure and readily available opportunity for a fresh start such that you feel purged and clean and forgiven?

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