Here's the letter Debora K. sent in response to the article published in the San Francisco Examiner titled: "Fight Over Adoption Secrecy!"
I am one in thousands: an adoptee who searched for the right to know about my heritage.
I found it along with the potential for breast
cancer, heart failure and various other cancers.
I am not sad that I found this out. I am happy
that I have the armament to control and now
fight
these things head on.
My life along with the lives of other adoptees is
affected by such things as medical records.
Can
you deny this right to a non-adoptee?
We as children are ridiculed by our peers. Such
things as, "You weren't wanted,"
and the
infamous, "Now I know why you're acting so
strangely."
My 23-year struggle searching and finding a way
to come to grips with a society that
would cast
out a child for something she had absolutely no
control over came to an end
when I found my
family. Honesty among the members of the family
about the wants
and needs of each individual made
the reunion a bit more comfortable than what was
originally expected.
In finding my heritage I found 12 brothers and
sisters. All are individuals
and special in their
own ways. My birth mother is kind and very
compassionate.
My birth father is deceased. I am
still not completely in contact with everyone
and
that is OK. My effect on their lives is based on
their needs too.
Debora Kyllar
San Jose
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