S   O   B   E   R   pt  2
	I beleive now, completely, that the word Alcoholic, was invented as a categorisation,  for the benefit of people trying to understand a drinkers habit. Its A desease'. Youre sick and you need help. If you demand that ..*Im not an alcoholic..'... then you're supposedly  in denial. But what the term fails to address, is history. Is there a history of alcoholism in your family? then apparently you are prone to alcoholism. This avoids the question of why grandpa and granma drank so much.Or where Workaholics,  or Churchaholics, or Relationship or Sexaholics. Or did they not drink at all, but it was Their parents who did? How about the question of a history of disfuction? Or the handing down of a set of fucked up emotional rules. Ever heard of a drinker  whos parents never denied them understanding ,support and affection?
		If you beleive you're an alcoholic and will have to get dry  and  maintain it    *oh Ive been dry for 17 weeks and 3 days now!.. group hug    *GGGG*    then its likely you've transfered your dependence on substance abuse , over   to a dependence on constantly talking about yourself to other disfunctional " results" (raises hand) .    Then you can join the queue of guilt ridden misfits bugging old acquaintences    with appologies for past behaviours, just to further enhance your low self esteem.    Good deal hey? Capital idea. NOT !    Being honest and truthful with yourself, is one thing.    Being a prostrate and paranoid suckling pig ,for the benefit of the public,    is entirely another.    For the sake of reference, substitute the term 'Alcoholic' for the term 'Disfunctional Result    Now there's a better chance you'll find your way out of the cycle.    Naming your enemy goes along way to conquering it.    We are all Disfunctional Results, but merely of varying degrees.
			The key task here, is not to  Get Dry but to Re-build   your self esteem, after a lifetime of having felt Worthless    So lets get that established from the outset.    If you convince yourself, that your problem is ;alcoholism    (which is merely a symptom like any abusive behaviour) then there's a very good   chance, you'll miss the opportunity to address the  Cause;,    and you will most likely find newer and less definable addictions, to transfer  your esteem deal into.    With me so far?    *note* ;This does not mean you have to first conquer your entire personality  problem,  in order to stop drinking.  Few people alive , have achieved that.