LOVE PROBLEMS
Most of the time, I experience delays in my work or other activities because somebody is broken-hearted or is in a sentimental crisis, etc... My goodness! Being so physically and emotionally attached to somebody so bad enough to screw up with work and freeze everything is bad, so why would anybody dwell on such negative emotions?
The problems of the heart seem so terrible and painful in the beginning. I have been there myself and time heals those wounds, unless we do not want them to and we probably enjoy wallowing in pathos and autocommiseration that affects our daily lives, our work and interraction with other individuals. There are so many beautiful things in life and so much to do...ruining all the beauty and verve just because of sentimental problems is really unnecessary.
The Dalai Lama once said, "The very purpose of our life is happiness: in order to achieve happier days, happier weeks, happier years, happier family, happier human community...we should should pay more attention to inner development."
How can we achieve inner development if we are so self-absorbed, dwelling in the past and wallowing in self-pity? "Real love is not based on attachment." (Dalai Lama). Once we understand that our body, mind and soul were not meant to be focused on one person, we will find happiness. HANGING ON AND HOLDING ON only leads to unhappiness, discontentment and frustration.
Happiness does not depend on one human being. We are all free. "Love problems" are virtual chains we put on ourselves...but nothing really brings us down or binds us, except for our own attachment and desire. Sometimes, our own negative thoughts are our worst enemy. Once we fail to acknowledge our freedom and bind ourselves, we also cease to see and recognize those who truly love us and reciprocate our feelings and fulfill our need to be loved.
Love in a broader sense and see the beauty of life.
If this vision is disrupted by attachment, jealousy and anger, we will never be able to enjoy our freedom and we are bound to sink deeper and deeper in self-created misery.
THE ENEMY IN YOUR HEART- "There is one enemy who is alwys an enemy, with whom you should never compromise; that is the enemy inside your heart. You cannot change all these bad thoughts into your friend, but you have to confront and control them."- Dalai Lama
Don't screw up your life and others' just because your heart is suffering. It is not worth all the pain. Love does not bind. Love does not possess and destroy. Love has a broader and more universal meaning, so learn how to look around you and treasure all the beauty, but never look back to feel the pain caused by one person...and caused by yourself. Love, Catherine Morandi
"To Love is to know Me,
My innermost nature,
The truth that I am."
-Hinduism: Bhagavad Gita
Catherine Morandi Copyright 2000