Warning Signs
Here are some signs that a person is suicidal that you should take notice of.
I remember seeing a list of warning signs before my friend's death and saying that "I don't know anyone like this." Well, the warning signs are hard to notice, but listening to your gut feeling that there is something not right about your friend or loved one is vital. Most often than not your inner nagging feelings are true, and the hardest part is to get it to click. Here is a list that will provide you with a guideline with the actions of what people who are thinking of suicide do. It doesn't mean they only possess one or all, but if you notice a lot of the signs please save a life by helping your friend.
Sudden changes in personality
Previous attempted suicide
All of a sudden the person gives away their possessions
Ending of a romance
Excessive use of drugs and/or alcohol
Inability to tolerate frustration
Depression
Eating disturbances ie. significant weight loss/gain
A change in sleep patterns
Unwillingness or inability to communicate
Sexual promiscuity
Extreme or extended boredom
Inability to concentrate
Accident prone - carelessness
Unusually long grief reaction
Unusual sadness, discouragement, loneliness
Hostile behaviour
Neglect of academic work
Neglect of personal appearance
Major stress
Major loss ie.of a loved one, home;loss of status through divorce, trauma or losing a loved one
Running away from home, or truancy from school
Withdrawal ie.from people, especially close friends, family and/or favorite activities
Rebelliousness
Reckless behaviour
Lack of self esteem
What to do when you notice the warning signs and/or if your loved one approaches you
- Tell an adult you trust
- Tell a teacher/guidance counselor etc.
- Call a local crisis center
- Talk to him/her and really LISTEN - don't be accusing or unaccepting during the conversation - let them know that you are willing to help and be there for them
- Also don't argue, act judgemental or preach
- Take what is said seriously. don't laugh off his/her feelings ...remember they may think things are hopeless!
- Stay with the person if you feel they are in danger of self harm/mutilation
- Find out if they have a plan. The more specific the plan, the greater the suicidal risk factor. Assist them in looking at alternatives and other options
- Keep calm and act calm but show concern and caring. Be genuine in your actions
For more information go to Yellow Ribbon International
Background byWindy Web