Ben Kirchner

September 22 2008

Mr Sciuto jrfaith

Right Speech Experiment

While doing my right speech experiment I had an interesting experience in that I noticed I deviated from the truth far more often then I once thought. For example on Friday night I was going to the Cor Jesu mixer by myself to meet up with some girls I had recently met, but I told my mom that I was going with three guy friends to meet this girls. Now at the time when I said this to my mom I wasn't entirely lying because at the time I knew that two out of three guy friends were thinking about going but I also knew that it was unlikely. In addition to not revealing that I was meeting these girls on my own I also told my mom that there was a planned after-party after the mixer at one of my friends houses and I proceeded to tell her where that friend lived, but in reality the party was at a girls house I didn't know, nor did I know where this girl lived. I told my mom this because I knew she didn't know either one of the girls I was talking about so I chose to tell her about the friend I knew more about so it appeared I was in control of the situation. Of course as the evening progressed me and the girls I met there bailed on the mixer, I didn't call my mom and tell her this, and then we ended up going to one of my guys friend houses who was one of three who was thinking about going to the mixer but didn't. I did tell my mom all this when I got home because I felt compelled to fill her in on all the details.

Friday night was my biggest night of deviating from the truth because on Saturday and Sunday and even Monday(which is today) I didn't go anywhere and so besides for the occasional banter between me and my little brother I didn't do anything those days except schoolwork or play.

Looking back upon what I remembered and observed of myself I realize that when I ask for something I tend to address the question like an argument or game if will because I see the end result and then I tell myself how do I get to that result without revealing too much about what is going on and yet at the same time how do I provide all the necessary information so that my parents don't think I am “shotgunning” something. Now after looking back upon the events and what I just wrote I don't know if I am lying by not revealing everything I know about something, but I do know that I am not a person who takes rejection well ,at least not in conversation, and I will try and steer arguments, conversations, etc into a direction that suits me so that I don't have to deal with answers that involve no, don't, cant, etc.

After looking at my experiences I have noticed that people are more willing to listen to me if I give the appearance know what I am talking about no matter if that appearance is authentic or not. The idea that people will listen to someone who gives off an appearance of knowledge whether it be true or not scares me because it means I don't know who is a phony or the real thing unless I do the research and work myself, but I know that there are people out there who will believe anything they hear because they are afraid or don't know how to think for themselves. To me it is scary that people will follow someone blindly in a world where it is the actions and decisions of the people that decides law, education, war,and justice, because it means the world populace is being fed crap while believing its something more and thats not right.