Dear Aaron,

First let me say, I love you, and will continue to do so.  As far as accepting that you are gay, I can't do that.  I believe that you think you are gay, and may embrace that lifestyle, but the truth is, simply, God does not create gay people.  There are no homosexuals.  Only people who practice homosexuality.

And, Aaron, I believe that deep down inside, you know that.  You are right, God loves you.  But he didn't make you gay.  You are choosing that.  And you will suffer the consequenses of that choice.  Whatever rationalizing you do won't change that.

It's not too late to let Christ heal you and save you.  That emptiness in your life won't be filled by a perverted lifestyle and a worldly cause to devote yourself to.  It can only be filled by Christ.  And, he is waiting to do that for you.

I don't want to debate you on theology, because there is no point.  You know I'm right, and when you get past the self destructive anger in you life and let the truth in, you will accpet it.

I pray that you'll do this soon, before you do get AIDS, or worse, end up seperated from Christ eternally.

I love you,

Uncle...

Dear Aaron,

Yes, I was surprised but I also realize that you have to do what you have to do with your life.  Your choices are your own.  I'm sure I've made choices in my life that others didn't agree with, but for me, they were the right choices.  I'm not saying that I haven't made ANY mistakes, who hasn't?  I wish you the best in your future and I still have some chicken and noodles over here in the freezer for you.  I am still your aunt and hopefully your friend and that shall always be.  I've watched you grow up and I intend to watch you as you continue to grow and develop into the adult that is successful and happy.  Be careful and stay safe!

Aunt...

Aaron,

I'm really at a loss of words right now...it will take me some time to think about your situation.  Of course you can still depend on me when you need help, I will not turn my back on you because of this.  Family is very important to me and after all you are still my nephew.

I do believe we each have to choose a path and follow it, but I think you have chosen a tough one.  I don't necessarily refer to being gay, but rather your desire to "fight" for "gay rights."  Most of us are different in one way or the other from those around us, yet chose to go quietly about our lives avoiding conflict whenever possible.  I have known several gay people in my professional life; successful people who did their jobs and did not try to push their sexuality on those around them.  I don't want people to know what I do in my bedroom, and I don't care what they do in theirs.

I would like to see you do well in school, become a successful professional that you have the talent for, and find the happiness we all strive for.  I think today the choice is yours... you can be an "in-your-face" gay person fighting for success and happiness or you can be a happy, successful person that just happens to be gay.  I may be naive, but that's the way I see it, Kid.

I'm still here if you need me...but that doesn't mean I completely accept this.  I will try to be understanding, but please don't think bad of me if it takes time.  You need to be patient and understanding, too.

I still love you and wish you the best!

Uncle...

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