When it comes to the subject of love and passion, the Aquarius man would rather read a book. Or see a good movie. Or make a good movie. Or explain how happy he is because after all these years, he has found a woman who is the perfect friend.
    To the typical Aquarian man, anything too emotional is considered slightly offensive. In perfectly rational terms, he'll explain why. This may and probably does take up most of what was originally considered to be a perfect evening. Bedtime passes by in a blur of hot feverish announcements about historical imperatives and social betterment.
    The Aquarian man is cold when it comes to anything too emotional. And any woman who is right there with him beat by beat, late-night critical debate after late-night critical debate, is sure to get straight to his soul. The Aquarian man's ideal woman is somebody who is brilliant, shares his ideals, and becomes his best friend.
    And then there is his fantasy. The Aquarian man's problem is that he is compartmentalized. His heart is in the attic, his sexuality is in the basement and his brain is in the far beyond. Therefore, his feelings about women are often in conflict. Likewise, women are often frustrated concerning his behavior toward them.
    There is a little of the old "goddess and the whore" thinking to the Aquarian male's orientation. It is not that he is asexual as he might appear. Rather, he is suppressed because he is devoured by a megawatt thinking process that prevails like a dominant parent. Therefore, if he is typical of his sign, he is not terribly turned on by the idea of sex on an ongoing basis, because for anything to have a vital place in his life, it must pass through his head. And usually, there is already so much in his head that it's like a mass sit-in to save the world.
    Because of their compartmentalized makeup, Aquarian men can get caught up in pornography and/or sadomasochistic pursuits. They can also become severely alienated and waste years of their lives analyzing. Because their minds tend to be so fixed they are very slow to change or grow.
    The realm of love is central to the core of human possibility because it requires an extension of our boundaries, an ability to get beyond our small ego self to incorporate "the other" into our existence. In so doing, we have the opportunity to grow and become more than we originally were. However, it is here that many Aquarian men have trouble. The head says one thing, the sexuality another, and the heart yet a third. However, all along the word that keeps popping up in conversation is "friend".
    Aquarian men are often hopelessly confused without even knowing it. They are not in touch with their feelings and substitute their minds for their heart. Consequently, they can be cold, detached and insensitive to those subtleties that are warm and human. It is far easier, more natural and less messy just to be someone's friend. To the Aquarian man, it also feels a lot more elevated.
    In their minds, Aquarian men can love a lot of people in a lot of ways, and the love is lofty and transpersonal. However, with a very heavy one on one, their sense of freedom is compromised, and their cherished ideals are challenged. This is not a happy feeling.
    However, when an Aquarian man avoids personal love for too long, he becomes cut off and alienated. This deadness and fragmentation becomes a sickness in his soul that contaminates his entire life. His power comes from emotional integration and from being able to bridge the personal and transpersonal through his being. Then his edges are rounded out and he is not merely a brain but a force behind his own brilliance. Through love, his brain can meet his lower depths and give power to his heart and his sexuality. Love can vitalize his entire being by making him more aware of himself, as a being and  a body. The Aquarian man, perpetually so other-oriented, needs to feel himself in a way that has meaning. This wisdom has great power, for it breathes of human possibility.
    Unfortunately, many Aquarian men have to go through a serious crisis before they are able to emerge from their mental containment. Old ways of seeing, hearing and believing must die and their minds become a void through which mental illusions evaporate like phantoms. This is a terrifying process for such a fixed mind, but it clears the way for a new way of feeling. The mind has found its heart in all its simplicity. As the personal feelings begin to flow like a quiet hum of peace, so will the Aquarian man begin to know his own power.