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NUDIST FAMILY BEHAVIOR

The following text deals with sexual matters and might possibly be offensive to some people, so be fairly warned.

One time in a forum (not a nudist forum), a woman posted with a problem.  The original post is long gone, but I'll try to remember what she said.  She said that her family was a nudist family; her, the husband, and the kids (at least one).  The problem she claimed was that her son, about age 10 (again, I can't remember for sure), had a habit of openly masturbating while they all watched TV in the living room.  He even was getting to the age that he was starting to ejaculate, right there in front of everybody.  She said she didn't like it, yet her husband did nothing to stop it (might have encouraged it, I'm not sure).

Obviously this kind of behavior is not normally acceptable in nudist familes.  One person who responded doubted the validity of the post because of that and I tended to agree, yet I'm willing to give people the benefit of the doubt.  I'm including this text because it deals with naturism, family life, sexuality, child development, and acceptable nudist behavior.  Below is my response to that woman.

I agree with HH on this one.  Allowing open masturbation is not a behavior that's accepted in nudist homes.  I'm a nudist and know many other nudists/families, and I've never heard of such an activity.  Yes, masturbation is a normal [and healthy] action in the sexual development of all children [and adults], but it is always either alone, or occasionally with other children the same age (siblings, friends).  Lone masturbation in front of the family is not an activity that's taught as "acceptable" by nudist parents, so I have to doubt the validity of this post.

Nudist parents raise their children to believe several things:  the human body is beautiful in all its forms; the [nude] human body is not inherently sexual; nudity with others isn't inherently sexual.  They teach healty values about accepting one's own body and the bodies of others, to accept people for WHO they are instead of WHAT they wear or look like.  The relevant lesson here is about nudity and sexuality.

A common problem to public nude beaches, and to a far lesser extent in the nudist resorts and clubs, is certain individuals (usually male, but sometimes female and sometimes couples) going there for sexual reasons or engaging in sexual activity.  Quite often it is lone males gawking at the naked women and masturbating.  These types of people are very unwelcome at nudist locations, as their presence casts a bad shadow on the true nudists and ruins their hard-to-earn good reputation.  Unwanted sexual activity is powerful ammunition for conservative politicians and radical religious groups who want to shut down nudist facilities, which is exactly why the true nudists at those places do their best to run off or have arrested those lewd people.  [Note:  occurrences like that happen in small numbers, but are a problem none the less.  When I say "often", that's referring to a percentage of those occurrences.  Luckily, things like this are pretty infrequent.]

Considering what nudists don't want, behavior-wise, I highly doubt that any nudist parents would allow open masturbation in their home.  If they did allow it, that would teach the child that (1) openly sexual behavior is accepted, (2) being naked means it's time to do something sexual, and (3) it's OK to do such sexual activities in front of people who don't want to see it.  This is why I have to doubt the nature of your post.

However, if you truly are a nudist who wants this behavior to stop, please accept my apologies.  If you firmly want to raise your family with true naturist values, put your foot down and stand up for what's right.  Don't allow your son, or anybody, to openly engage in sexual behavior.  Tell him/them to take it someplace private.  This is a delicate situation, though, because you don't want to make him think that sexual pleasure is wrong, but you have to teach him when and where it's appropriate.  It sounds like you will also have to teach the rest of your family, including your husband, what nudism is all about.

Raising your children into a nudist family is the best thing you can do for them.  They will grow up far more open minded about themselves, others, and sexual matters; they will be more mentally and emotionally stable.  I was born into a textiled family, raised to be VERY modest and ashamed of my body, and I was extremely uncomfortable talking about sexual subjects.  It's taken many years for me to undo my way of thinking and teach myself to become a nudist [I still have a long way to go in undoing all the mental barriers].  A lot of my younger problems and fears would have never existed had I been raised as a nudist, or at least not fearful of the nude body.

Thanks for reading