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she's studying political science in columbia u right now, doing all sort of fun stuff like jazz dance, singing in the glee club, learning spanish in guatemala.... she's doing so well over there in new york, where there's plenty of opportunities for her to try new things. so glad for her. and so jealous. haha.
our friendship started way back in 1993, when we had the same project mentor, [though we had different projects] and we had great fun going on expeditions to help each other with project research. i remember going to hill street, searching for the national archives building, for her project. we got lost. haha. and we went to the zoo together in 1994, so i could interview the zoo keeper. don't ask me what the project was. it was silly.
we don't hang out anymore, partly due to geographical distances. but partly also because we've both moved on from our teenage selves, venturing in different directions, with different people, i guess. she just started working on
her website, quite well done, much better than mine. her boyfriend dennis has some great work to show here too.
we made a deal - if we're not married by 30, we'll move in together. as lesbiam partners. haha. of course, right now, i refuse to accept her as my lesbian partner, but maybe the living arrangement still holds. heh.
she was the first person i spoke to, on the first day of school in rgs. she was like the drifting log that came along during my most pathetic times. of course, since then we've had our ups and downs - like drifting apart during sec 3. but since hwachong days, we got close again, and i just know we'll be good friends for a long time to come.
i witnessed her transformation over the past 8 years, since that first day in rgs; and similarly, she has seen me through all the major milestones in my life. like my first boyfriend. she's the one, and only one who knows my initial reaction at reading that first love letter. i don't hide anything from her, because i know that when she comes together with ming, all my secrets will be out anyway. thank god i know more of her dark secrets than she does of mine. heh.
we used to talk on the phone a lot, but when we went to the states, we icq-ed all the time. she has a web site too, in fact she's the one who inspired me to do my own. i don't write as well as she does though. she's studying english at duke now, and she's a future lit teacher. there was a period of time i kept on getting the "he"s and "she"s wrong, irritated/confused her, i'd bet. haha.
love her lots, love our conversations together, love her indulging my whining, love her little quirks. maybe she can be my lesbian partner after all. but let's hope not.
i remember she made me burst out crying once, in sec 1. partly because she was so fierce back then, and partly because i was such a timid girl. nowadays, she doesn't intimidate me so much anymore, because i realise she's really quite harmless. at least she doesn't bite. haha. [though there was a period of time in rgs when she was crazy about anne rice books. hmm.]
but frankly, she's someone i would always trust, because she doesn't mince her words. she doesn't lie to me just to please me. she's so caustic sometimes it still stings, but i know she never intends to hurt me so then it doesn't matter anymore. it's almost like it's just my luck that god sent ming down here to train my guts and my strength.
she's studying economics at london school of economics [lse] right now, we don't even keep in regular contact during the usual school days. but we went to spain/morocco together, and i guess that's the way our relationship is. we don't have to talk all the time. but when we do come together, it's definitely something worth remembering.
wish we have more time for each other, sometimes it's vaguely unsatisfying to have to know what happens to her only some time after it happens. but i know i love her lots, for accepting me the way i am, and for being such a real friend. she's so cool.
she's one of those people i would call up 10 years from today, and say, "hey, what's up with you lately?" and then knowing her, not only will she tell me about herself, she'll be able to share with me all the gossip that she knows about our common friends. haha.
she used to be a very outgoing sociable girl, but over the years, she's become more jaded. more tired, sometimes too stressed up, for whatever reasons. in many ways, she's more like me than anyone else on this page. we both love chinese, we both like the humanities more than the sciences despite being science students. the only difference is, i chose to continue staying in the science, while she boldly stepped into the unfamiliar world of humanities studies in jc. and now she's studying economics, like ming, at lse.
she's intrinsically a very thoughtful and sensitive girl, though there was a period of time when she had a more outgoing and bimbotic image. maybe like how i am now. right now, maybe university work is more stressful and a little overwhelming, she's not as active as before. we don't keep in regular contact, but when we do, we can always expect a sympathetic ear and practical advice.
we did huang cheng together, her being the very supportive administrative producer and me being the irritable ticketing agent. and that is one thing i will always remember - she's the only one who shared my memories of both my rgs days and the huang cheng production, two very important factors in how i am now.
i guess i'm a greedy person, i hope when i do call her up 10 years from today, not only would she still be a friend to gossip with, but still a good friend to talk heart to heart with. love her lots, for being the sensible and strong person she is. hope she's happy.
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