If I want to talk about the word "friends", than it might take ages or it might only take one paragraph. First I have a great I-don't-care attitude (hey, I know it's my negative point but sometimes it solve many problems in life by having this attitude), I don't care how many friends I have, it doesn't matter how they look like or where they are from, as long as they treat me as a friend (according to their philosophy of life) and they don't make me a fool. Then, I think I can get along with anyone.

There are a few points which I can't tolerate.

1. My friends must not smoke (in front of me). If they know they do, or they once did, don't ever come telling me or let me see them doing it. I won't speak much, if we're at the same table, I'll just walk off.

2. Try to be honest to everyone especially at all time at all cost. Pranks/jokes once in a while is OK I guess!! (I myself played some idiotic jokes to my close friends at times!)

3. Don't PRETEND... must be connected with honesty.. I'd rather someone tell me off you don't like me than pretending you do & carry on pretending, making both party uneasy.

That's it. Or if I list too much people will be afraid to stand near me!! Heehee.. but what the heck, I get to overcome any worries in at most 15-30 minutes...(from life experience) I think you might laugh, but 'calm down the mind' or 'reflection' or 'being mindful' works.

Classification of my friends:

The first person I'll call when

I saw Backstreet Boys on TV : (i)Lei Hsia

I got very bored with nothing better to do : (i)Lei Hsia, (ii)Yong Tien, (iii)Tze Wei

Long time never talk to somebody : (i)Yee Ting, (ii)Yong Tien, (iii)Suk Yein

I want to go see a movie : (i)Lei Hsia/Yong Tien, (iii) Lee Leng

I don't have many good friends but I can say I have quite a number of normal friends. I'd like to keep it that way.

I love writing letters. I think penpals can be considered friends? But can you say people write because in real life they can't make many good friends? Or that they have inferiority? I have about 40 penpals so far. One day when I ask my dad why I don't talk to all the very pretty girls in school?? Hmm... he said I might have inferiority complex... duh... I think I'm more inferior to very smart people!! heehee... what am I talking ....it's like revealing my behavior to the net!! Wahey..

I think my parents are my good friends and so are my cousins. I'll consider my cyberpals as friends too because I come to the net so often and they know so much about me. If only it is more 'real' heehee...I'm telling my netfriends stuff that I'd write in a diary if I should have one... diary is supposed to be secretive, with my character, the term 'secret' is not in my dictionary. :) I just tell everything that's under the sun. But I'll to keep yours if you should tell me one?!!

Lastly, I must say thank you for taking the time to read. I wrote this without any intention of revealing my secrets or with a second thought, like I said.... there's nothing that I don't tell!!

of

Tan Ho Yean

(1979-1995)

I hope to dedicate this Friendship page to my very special friend, Tan Ho Yean who passed away on 25th July, 1995. She was a really special kind of friend, maybe because she suffered from leukaemia since 7 years old.