Bible Thoughts

November 14, 1999

On occasions, brethren have differences that turn into problems. They may be personal problems that exist with other Christians. Some may become so intense that one saint will take another saint to court. This was either about to happen at Corinth or was occurring. The apostle Paul taught the brethren that problems arising between brethren could be solved. The same is true today.

It is absolutely amazing what can trigger difficulties that arise between those who are to be of like mind(Romans 12:16). In the same passage, Paul is encouraging them to "set not your mind on high things, but condescend to things that are lowly." When humility is in the Christian, problems can be placed in the proper perspective and sincere efforts made to solve such.

Practicing humility is not the way of the world. It is the way of the Christian. When we have the proper attitude toward others and the recognition of one's own humanity, many problems between brethren can be solved without difficulty. However, when one is "high-minded" and desires always to have his/her own way in matters that do not affect the soul, problems persist.

Sometimes brethren will refuse to speak to one another because of some difference. Or, hidden motives are charged to the other party that results in further alienation. It is certainly true that it takes both co-operating to solve any problem that exists. It is not possible to solve a problem that separates Christians when one of the parties does not behave as a disciple of Christ.

One factor that enters into solving difficulties arising between brethren is that one must be willing to listen. Take the time to listen to the other party(that may not always solve a problem, but it helps). Communication is essential in reaching a proper solution to whatever may cause an alienation. The communication must occur between the receiver and the communicator.

It is not possible to solve a one-sided problem(such does not exist unless a person has a problem with oneself). There are two sides. Both could be wrong(to a degree); both could be right(to a degree); one could be wrong and one could be right(or the reverse). The apostle was trying to bring reconciliation to the two parties without going before civil authorities to solve the problem. Remember: civil judges go by the laws of the land; Christians respect the Law of Christ above all else. Disciples should be able to apply the principles of the New Testament to all disputes and settle any matter involving morality, justice, and religious practices.

It is recognized that in some cases, no reconciliation can take place because of the unwillingness of one of the parties to follow the New Testament. There can even be animosity from one of the parties that will interfere with solving a problem. The attitude of those involved can(and will) keep a disagreement from being erased. Even the one who is right could be wrong in the attitude displayed. As an example, a person might insist that certain steps be taken after the apparent solving of a difficulty that require more of the other person than the scriptures demand. Or, it might even cause a conflict with the person's own integrity. Such matters can, and will, be solved when one thinks and behaves as a Christian.

If a person insists on having his/her own way in matters of indifference and will not listen to reason, that individual needs a change of attitude. It one insists on practicing anything(or teaching anything) that ignores the scriptures or perverts the scriptures, a change in belief is necessary. Paul's instructions do not make room for wrong, only for believing and practicing what is in the word of God.

Paul rebuked the Corinthians when they would not solve their differences. "Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more, things that pertain to this life?.....What, cannot there be found among you one wise man who shall be able to decide between his brethren?"(I Corinthians 6:3, 5). Paul expected them to work out their problems because they were Christians. When differences cannot be solved, is it not because someone(s) does not act like a disciple of Christ?

When a difficulty arises between two disciples, let them solve it between the two. If it cannot be worked out, let them seek help from a "wise man" to help them. Do not seek someone whose sympathy lies with one of the parties, but seek one who can scripturally weigh the differences and will listen "wisely" to both sides.

Those who have a conservative(right) attitude toward the word of God and the church that Christ built can find themselves fragmented because of the extremes that some will teach and practice. We are to "speak where the Bible speaks and be silent where it is silent." When a brother takes a view on divorce and remarriage that is more liberal than the teaching of Christ or so restricts the law of Christ as to teach restrictions not included in the teaching of Christ, forcing such upon others, such can(and does) result in a division between brethren. The same principle applies in all issues. One cannot teach less than the will of God's Son; one cannot teach more than the will of God's Son. Either approach, on any subject, can cause a division. How to solve? Let a wise man(one knowledgeable of the scriptures) teach what God's law reveals and follow it. Remember: division always occurs when someone(s) does not want to obey what is revealed.

There are multiple causes for brethren not following the instructions of Paul in solving their differences. Some are prejudiced. They have made up their mind and will not change, regardless of the plainness of the scriptures. Others will not solve a problem because of hurt feelings. This is letting the flesh rule the spirit. Everyone, at times, has hurt feelings. Such is no justification for refusing to do what the Lord teaches. Stubbornness prevents one who is guilty from seeking to solve a difference. Admitting one is wrong is not easy and when one refuses to change when he knows he is wrong, he is stubborn. Wanting one's own way also prevents solving of problems. No man is so wise as to know everything and cannot be right in every situation. Perhaps all are guilty of wanting one's own way at times. Why not take a good long look at myself in the mirror. It might solve my problem(and the other person's also).

Christians have the greatest authority on earth for solving problems and difficulties. Is it not sad that his disciples fail to listen to the Lord when we so badly need to do so?