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I'm starting to wonder what I'm going to tell my daughter when she gets old enough to ask about her father. While I don't believe in lying to children, I also think the truth might not sound quite right to a little kid. How do you tell a child that her father doesn't want the responsibility, doesn't love us, doesn't want anything to do with us? That even if he did, he's not safe to be around, isn't a good influence, and Mom doesn't want anything to do with him? Not having ever known a father, it won't be exactly like rejection, but I think it will suck. I just can't tell her that. If he were dead, the truth would be easier. Maybe something along the lines of, "Your father is very sick and isn't safe to be around?" How to explain absolutely no attempts whatsoever on his part to contact us, or find out what color her hair is? How to explain that I'd really rather he implode than try to contact us? And what if she wants to try to get in touch with him one day? I just hope I'm doing enough now to let her know she is loved and secure and a source of happiness... so that people like him will never be able to hurt her.
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