So many ever-changing terms, and still trying to best define ourselves!

I love the term polyerotic, although polyamory has currency because it has come to be common. To me polyerotic implies one of the best things about polyamory- that we can not only be erotic with many different people, but in many different ways. I value my experiences relating erotically to many different people in many different situations because they have radically widened and redefined my parameters of intimacy and sexuality. I have beloveds (and/or belusteds) with whom I have never had, and perhaps will not ever have the genital contact that most people define as "real sex," but I still feel a deeply erotic bond with them and am deeply satisfied by our intimacies, physical, verbal and spiritual.

I also am liking the term "eroplay" as used by Frank Moore to define the deep physical play that, while very erotic and intimate, falls out of those narrow lines of "real sex." Foreplay is eroplay, but eroplay does not have to be foreplay, as it is enjoyed for its own value and is not goal oriented. All that lovely kissing, cuddling, massaging, tickling, hugging... yummy! Makes me joyful just to think about it.

I am a very lucky girl to know so many people who do eroplay and poly eroticism so very, very well! Sigh!

Let a thousand flowers bloom, Sienna

PS: If they are our brothers, why can we not eat them?

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