Intense Love relationship. Orgasm Control as a form of Love Gift
I just want to share my current experience.
I and my girlfriend are not really new at that, but while initially she
was just curious (and I was too), now she started to enjoy her role,
and she became very nasty in teasing me.
We've started few months ago, as a joke once she told me that she was
going to touch me, but without going till the end. It was fun.
Then came across a website about T&D, and got excited at the idea.
I didn't know how to tell her, so once when we were making love I asked
her what she would think if I didn't cum at the end, whether this could
excite her.
She was surprisingly turned on by that, and we did it.....but after half an hour she touched me again and I blew my semen.
She was a little disappointed, as the same thing happened again
(twice), as, even though I was excited at the idea, at the end I wasn't
able to hold it.
Then, once I decided to hold it at whatever cost, and I did it. She was
delighted, excited, wild. It was only for one day, the second day I
ejaculated, but we both were damn turned on.
What I didn't realize was that what was for me the goal (resisting till the next day) was for her just the starting point!! [b]
She then asked me (initially very softly) to try and resist more, and I
also was terribly excited, so we went on for 3 days. So painful for me,
and yet so exciting.
After that we left it for more than one month (and had regular sex),
but then she asked me again to hold my orgasm for her (she insists that
I have to do it for her). I did it for 6 days. My oh my, I was
desperate, she was wild.
That happened twice.
Again a period of regular sex, and now again she came back to the
point, but with more strenght, more authority, she started to tease me
for longer time everyday (TODAY WE'RE AT DAY 6), she said she wants to
gently torture me by denying me any form of orgasm, while she likes me
to keep on taking pleasure from her teasing.
She's extremely (really extremely!!!) excited by:
1) the idea of controlling my orgasms, allowing and denying them at her will
2) the fact that I feel this sensation of fullness in my prostate (that
drives her wild, she likes also to touch and stimulate me there)
3) the pain I feel in my tests after her terrible teasing sessions (she
then touches me there to make me feel a little more pain)
4) the fact that when she allows me a release, the first ejaculation is kinda painful for me -she says this is the extra bonus
She also added few extra rules, for situations A and B, and that worries me a little:
A- When we're in a T&D period:
1) Of course I can't reach the orgasm, but I have to let her take me to
the very edge, she says she wants my sperm to go up into the shaft and
then come back. I am responsible of stopping her at the very last
second.
2) I cannot fuck her of even touch her pussy unless she gives me the
permission to do so. (Today I was allowed to fuck her and she came like
crazy)
3) I cannot ask her to touch me, she wants to decide when and how to do it (but she does it all day long!!)
4) she decides how many days I have to resist, she can change her
decision at any time (even increasing) and I cannot question. She
insisted the time frame will not be fixed, I will not know exactely how
many days, she might tell me 5, and then change her mind for 8 or 10 or
whatever.
5) She calls this T&D my punishment, even though she is sweet with me during this period
6) When she finally allows me a release, I have to orgasm twice for her pleasure
B- When we are in a regular-sex period:
1) I can do whatever I want, fuck her, cum whenever/wherever I want
2) She can decide to start a T&D period whenever she feels to, so
she basically wants to take full control of my orgasms (she told me
that is her target), dciding when I can have and when I cannot.
She exposed me those rules two hours ago, and now I'm looking back at
our whole history and I'm surprised since while I was the one who
introduced her to this game, now she got really into it.
She asked me to let her know whether I want to stick to these rules,
and I told her I definitively will, I told her that from now on she
will have full power on my orgasms, I'll leave them to her. I promised
her I will never orgasm again without her permission.
She also told me she will not set crazy time frames (e.g. 6 months),
but she will set reasonable limits, which I will be able to achieve.
Today she was talkin about one month T&D period, but with one
weekly release (actually cumming twice the same day, according to her
rules).
What is fantastic is that she is so sweet, she always talks to me
sweetly, and when she teases me she wants me to feel the maximum
pleasure, she does all the tricks I like.
She says orgasm control is a love gift she gives me.
I love her so much.
Just an update on my adventure.
Yesterday my g/f allowed me a release, even though when she asked me
whether I could bear more days of denial I've answered yes, as she told
me she's got a definite plan for me, and for this time I was not
rqeuired to hold it longer.
She said she will train me slowly, and she will put me into another
denial period again, but not too quickly, otherwise my interest and
excitement will go down.
From now on, she will allow me regular sex until she will decide I have to be in denial period again.
During these 8 days, being constantly teased in the sweetes but firmest way, I've realized the following:
-IT DEFINITIVELY BETTER FOR ME TO LEAVE THE CONTROL OF HIS ORGASMS TO MY GIRLFRIEND.
The reasons are:
1) first of all, in a OD session I can REALLY focus on my woman's
pleasure and on my own pleasure, but the WHOLE pleasure, every single
instant of pleasure, coming from all my sexual organs (not only from
the penis) and by putting aside the ultimate urge of ejaculating, I can
feel a heap of sensation I've never even thought about before.
2) my grilfriend's ultimate goal (we've discussed about that) is to
have a more complete, satisfying and intimate sex for both of us, while
before she said I was a little more focused on my own, even though she
was enjoying it and having her orgams.
3) She doesn't set unbearable limits to me, and even when she teases me
she recognizes perfectly when is the very right moment to stop, even
though sometimes I would like more.
4) I am constantly excited and willing to have sex, both during the
T&D periods and during regular sex ones, as the idea that SHE is
controlling my orgasms drives me crazy
5) When I have sex with her, and I'm not allowed to cum, I can satisfy
her big time, she has unbelievably intense orgasms, and she squirts her
juices like never before (she actually kind of ejaculate, and we've
never experienced it before). That makes me feel a wonderful pleasure,
both mentally and physically, without the need to ejaculate!!!!!
6) I couldn't believe her when at the beginning she promised I would
feel more pleasure by not ejaculating (seemed crazy), but now I have to
admit it's true!!!!!!
7) After she reaches those wonderful orgasms, we can rest a little, but
I'm always ready to fuck her again, like we did last time, even after
half an hour, and with the same excitement and enthusiasm, while if I
cum, then I can fuck again but I'm definitively less turned on, so also
for her it's not the same.
8) She's always concerned about my pleasure too, she is even sweeter than
before, if possible, and she's doing wonderful tricks to take me to the
pure ecstasy.
9) It doesn't affect any other aspects of our relationship, we don't mix this erotic adventure with our daily life at all.
10) As I've mentioned before, she has a definite plan for me, but as
usual she doesn't want to tell me anything, now I only know that I can
have regular sex with her for some time, then she will lock me again in
T&D at her own will. Since I've accepted her rules, I will have to
comply.
I'm curious about the plan, but she doesn't want to say anything, she
just told me that it will be a training for me in order to let her have
the best possible control of my orgasms, and that I will be trained to
enjoy it a lot and to be able to resist a little more (but within
reasonable limits).
11) She said it won't be forever; we will do it until we will both enjoy it. (that's also important).
12) However, when I'm in regular sex periods (like now), I have full
power, and I can fuck her whenever and however I want, cumming in her
mouth or ass or even binding her to the bed. So I can balance some
surrender with some power.
13) Last but not least, I loved when she promised me I could cum on
Saturday and then she changed her mind and let me release only on
Sunday. That is a great evidence that she is wise and knew that this
was going to be a turn-on for me, even though it seemed the contrary.
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The above reasons make me think SHE'S DEFINITIVELY WISER than me, she
knows myself better than I do (is it possible?), as without her I
couldn't figure something so wonderful, so I'm convinced it's a benefit
for both of us to let her decide and have full control of my orgasms.