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The past several weeks (October 1997) have been a blur; I had just spent a week in Boston for a course in management development, then the following weekend we flew to Vancouver to attend a wedding for one of Una's old friends. The night before flying for Vancouver, we got a call from Una's mother: Una's grandmother had passed away, and the funeral would be the following Friday (are you keeping this straight? I'm only going to go over this once...), and when we got back from Vancouver, I heard that a former co-worker of mine had finally succumbed to a long battle with breast cancer that very weekend. We flew to Toronto Thursday night for the funeral. The following is an attempt to put into words what we gleaned from our experiences, obvious as they may seem now in hindsight. Hope you learn something from it as well.
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flew separately to Vancouver. Una left on Thursday, and I flew out Friday night. Thursday night was when I got the call from Una's mom - Una's grandmother had passed away that night. I spent a few frantic moments trying to get the info to Una (I didn't have the number of the house she was staying at), and to arrange an airline flight to Toronto for the following Friday.
Una and her friend Colin picked me up at the airport, and we retired to his house. There, I met his room mates, who all are amazing cooks. They were like consummate performers gearing up to perform for an appreciative audience (us). This was also a long weekend in Canada for their version of Thanksgiving, and they would be having a party that Sunday night with all the fixins. We had a late night snack, then called it a day. Saturday morning, we went to Granville Island to do a little shopping, and to grab a quick bite to eat (the fish and chips were the best we'd ever had). Getting back to the house, we finalized the airline reservations to fly to Toronto the next Thursday night, to attend the funeral visitation. We got dressed, and rushed to the church for the wedding ceremony. It was a fairly good ceremony, as far as wedding ceremonies go, and it was nice and sunny (it was cold and rainy the day before and the day after) for the post-ceremony photo ops. Then to the reception, where I made full use of the open bar. It was a fairly good wedding reception, as far as wedding receptions go. It was interesting because of the difference between the families of the bride (who is part-asian) and groom (who is not). It was also fun seeing the differences between the friends of the bride (who were predominantly asian women into the retro-disco scene) and the friends of the groom (who were predominantly white guys dancing to R&B classics and hitting on the bride's friends, whether they were married or not). Sunday morning, several of us went out for some dim sum (which was tasty), and as the house-full-of-cooks eagerly reached a crescendo of preparation for that night's Thanksgiving day feast, I packed up for the flight back to Colorado. After dropping me off at the airport, where I bought the tickets for flying to Toronto, Una returned to the house, and proceeded to get stuffed. The orgy of eating reached the point where several the cooks passed out from lack of sleep and too much soporific turkey. I wish I was there. Una flew back Monday, which was when I heard that Cathy, whom I had previously worked with, had passed away that weekend due to her battle with breast cancer. ![]() | NEXT PAGE: | c a t h y |