2) BANAL SECRET #2: WOMEN LOVE SELF-CONFIDENT GUYS!

LESSON TWO.

In Lesson One you understood that you have to create emotion in women in order to make them interested in you. If you are not a rock star or a famous actor you can still create emotion in a woman. If you have a fluent and charming speech, you have a strong way to charm women.
However, you may happen to be ugly, poor, illiterate or even unpleasant. So, what can you do in this case? While your chances are quite low, you can still create emotion in a woman.

The main key to do this is:
SELF-CONFIDENCE, SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-RESPECT.
It is not important WHY you are self-confident. It is important THAT you are self-confident. Women love self-confident guys.

I know a guy that is ugly, short, illiterate and unpleasant. However, he makes good pizzas. The key is NOT that he makes good pizzas. The key is that HE KNOWS that he makes good pizzas. This allows him to have a strong self-confidence: he knows he has a strong point in his life, so he will always have a job, and he will always be appreciated by someone (for his pizzas). This makes him self-confident. What is most important is that HE KNOWS or BELIEVES he makes good pizzas. Actually he really does make good pizzas, but this is not the important point. Paradoxically, even if he made bad pizzas, but he BELIEVED that he made good pizzas, the result would be the same, because SELF-CONFIDENCE is the key.

I am sure you have some good qualities in some fields. You are clever in doing something. Even if you are clever in doing something that is not important, you should be aware that you are still clever in doing something, so there will always be someone that will appreciate you for this!

Please pay attention: you don't have to be appreciated by women directly for this quality of yours. Women need to be aware that you are appreciated by someone. For example, I know women that don't like soccer (some of them even HATE soccer) but they love soccer players because they know that thousands people appreciate soccer players. It is paradoxical but it is true.

There are men who are ugly, who are poor, who have several problems, but they still are self-confident. They may be unsuccessful in all fields all life, but they are still able to be self-confident for some reason. Marcus Pierce Meleton, Jr., in his funny book "Nice guys don't get laid", says that certain guys who are unsuccessful in life, still feel self-confident when dealing with women: of course they can get all the women they want.

Practice exercise.
Repeat to yourself: "I am important: I am important because... (insert here whatever the reason why you may be important)". If you don't think you have a reason for being important, don't care. Simply repeat: "I am important". Repeat this many times for several days, until you get more self-confidence. You can repeat this loudly, or mentally only, according to what you prefer. This may seems silly, but it is useful. If you don't want to do this, please don't keep in mind the idea behind this.

If you want a book about self-confidence or self-esteem, please consider "The ten commandments of self-esteem", by Catherine Cardinal (please notice that I do not get any money from Catherine Cardinal for telling you this).

If you want courses for self-confidence or self-esteem, remember that the most useful one is the TM technique (that will bring many other benefits to you). Please visit: www.tm.org.

Here are some precious tips from the book "The ten commandments of self-esteem" (Catherine Cardinal). Always remember that self-esteem is VERY important for getting the women you want.

DISCLAIMER: this is MY OWN elaboration about the content of such book. So there is no copyright infringement (even if you believe there is a copyright infringement, you must consider that this is compensated by the free publicity I am providing to such book).

#1 - Don't engage in conversation or in friendship with people that make you feel in discomfort with yourself.
#2 - Don't engage in conversation or in friendship with people who have more problems than you do (this is the same as Jeffries' rule #6, that will be exposed in Lesson Four).
#3 - You have the right to say no, to change your opinion, and to express your real feelings at any time.
#4 - Don't give more than you can.
#5 - What other people think about you is not important (don't look for approval by other people, do what you need to do).
#6 - Appreciate and celebrate any day of your life.

In Lesson Four you will find more tips to get more self-confidence.

Also remember: you have to show a strong DIGNITY. Of course you don't have to be too serious or saturnine! Most women appreciate humour, so you can joke sometimes, but never lose your dignity.

Of course, this is not a contradiction. You can be a comedian but you can still show a strong dignity. Someone does not understand this: some people see contradiction even where there is not contradiction. These people are like my friend Diego. Please don't be like him! The mind of my friend Diego is full of limitations: for example, I am Christian (Catholic) and I use to practise TM (Transcendental Meditation), that is a mental technique born in India (created by Hindu Masters). TM is a technique that was created for anyone in the world and is available for anyone in the world: it has no religious implications.

Of course Diego says I am heretical and contradictory for practising TM while saying I am Catholic! However I am not: I practise TM and I am still Catholic. I can't find a contradiction in this. Of course Diego would consider ridicolous that you can show a strong humour and a strong dignity at the same time. But you can, and it is not difficult at all.

By the way: Diego is 37 years old and he has NEVER had a woman (by his own admission). I am 38 and I had dozens of foxy women.

Please learn to be different from Diego. In the next lessons you will see that you have to be strong but gentle, harsh but kind, horny but indifferent, and so on... In a few words, you have to follow Dale Carnegie's tips and Ross Jeffries' tips at the same time (Lesson Four) even though this would be a contradiction for my friend Diego...

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