Ten Questions to
Ask About Yourself and Your Relationship
- What do I want from this relationship?
- Have I told him/her what is important to me in a relationship?
- Does he/she tell me what is important to him/her in a relationship?
- Am I happy with the way things are?
- What type of changes would make it better?
- Can we talk about touching?
- Do I feel good about the touching we do?
- Am I feeling pressured or am I pressuring?
- How does the relationship affect other things or people in my life?
- Who can I talk to when things get tough?
MATURE LOVE
- both are individuals apart from the other
- each accepts the fact that neither is perfect
- the relationship is strong in tough times as well as happy times
- the love gives each person energy to devote to all aspects of life
- the two people are close friends
- each person continues to grow as an independent human being
- there is joy in giving as well as receiving
- there is honesty and trust between the two people
- each feels a responsibility to the others well being
INFATUATION IS NOT LOVE
- the person depends on the relation for self esteem
- the person takes more from the relationship than they give
- each is jealous of the others separate activities
- the relationship drains the person of energy
- the person is afraid that the other person will lose interest in them
- the person can only think of the other person
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