Recognition of the Divine within every person leads us to treat each other with respect in all of our dealings. Asking for permission, reading body language, learning to accept “No,” and learning to communicate what we do want are all our shared responsibilities. Through such behaviors, we affirm our belief in the reverence and respect due to every person.

Abuse, coercion, sexual harassment, and intimidation of any kind profoundly violate our community of love and trust. As Friends, we are called to develop a truly inclusive community. Violence and harassment, whether intentional or unintentional, are inconsistent with our basic conviction of the divine in each of us.
Abuse includes demeaning comments, threats, domination by force, the use of violence, intimidation, and abuse of power. Abuse may be physical, emotional, psychological, or verbal. Neglect is a form of abuse. Name-calling, labeling and beatings are all forms of abuse.

Sexual harassment includes unsolicited and unwanted behaviors with a sexual connotation, especially if repetitive. Examples might include: suggestive looks or gestures; sexual comments, teasing or jokes with a sexual content; letters, calls or materials of a sexual nature; imposed touching or closeness; pressure for dates; discrimination on the basis of gender or sexual orientation.

To act in these ways is contrary to our deepest reverence
for the divine in every person.

RECOMMENDATIONS
If you are having a problem, Ministry and Oversight suggests that you discuss it first with the person involved. If this isn’t possible or does not end the behavior, speak to a trusted friend, the clerk of the Meeting or a member of Ministry and Oversight who will listen in a sensitive, non-judgmental and confidential manner. If action needs to be taken, M. & 0. is the appropriate group to matter.

Our hope to create the peaceable kingdom requires us to work
together on these issues.

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