In the past, a political leader might have said that those who weren’t with him were against him. A current sports leader, some time ago, was trying to divide the population into two groups: supporters and fans of his team on one side, and non-fans on the other. He accused the second group of being moved more by this antipathy than by sympathy for another team.
 
These exaggerated judgements lead us to think about how often we, in our political, sports, professional or family life etc, let antipathy, instead of a positive sentiment, move us. Many times we see some groups trying to imitate what others are doing! Very often, we notice that some of our colleagues are trying to denigrate what others are doing, so that they can highlight their position! Often it seems to us that some sports leaders are more against the other teams than in favour of their own! Even in our own homes, we may notice that we assume this or that position more to go against our spouse, rather than to defend the larger interests of our family.
 
How many of us spend a great part of our lives looking to the side, instead of looking ahead!
We can ask: is there any advantage in acting like this?
 
Maybe not. Perhaps we should concentrate our energy “in favour” of our own projects or those we like.
 
Naturally, we can’t agree with everyone all the time. We certainly haven’t got the same likes or interests.
 
But perhaps what is possible is to look intelligently for our own solutions. To think about what is convenient for us. To adjust to each other’s interests. And, when this is not possible, to choose what is best for to the whole and for ourselves.
 
If we avoid being against projects and specially against people, we can perhaps be more useful to ourselves and to the society we live in. Perhaps we can diminish conflict and grow up in terms of creativity and capacity for self-realization.
 
 

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