Co-Workers
Co-workers can sometimes be difficult to deal with. We go to work, looking to have a pleasant day, and there always seems to be these few couple of people who just get on our nerves. Most of us just pay them no mind and walk away, and some jump right down their throats. I have been working since I was fourteen years old and I have worked with many difficult people. I tried all different kinds of techniques to help me deal with these people. I tried to fight back with them, which only made them want to keep torturing me. I tried to ignore them, which made them want to get my attention more. I tried to talk with the person along with my supervisor, and they were more nasty. I was at my wits end. I did not know what to do anymore. I thought I tried everything that seemed logical. I could always resort to magick, but I believe that situations such as these could be handled through communication. Not just talking, but through constructive communication and active listening. Active listening works very well in all types of relationships. If the "difficult" person at work comes to you first thing in the morning with an attitude, turn to them and say "It seems to me you are having an unpleasant morning, come back to talk when you feel better." Turn back around and continue what you are doing. The person will realize you are aware of their attitude and walk away. If they have to talk with you again later, they will most likely be more pleasant. Always active listen by saying, "It seems to me," or "Sounds like..." Always say the statement like you are asking a question. The person will be amazed at the fact that you are not only listening to their words, but also to their silent actions. I have learned this technique from my wonderful therapist. I have used this very helpful tool in many of my relationships which has always worked. Try it out, you will be just as amazed as I was at the results!
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