So, what is a handfasting? If this is your question then this is your answer. A handfasting is a Pagan wedding. There are many variations of this, though it can be performed with all the legal paperwork today, it is more a dedication made by the couple to each other in the eyes of their Gods. Whether it be the God, the Goddess, or both. Family and friends are always welcome and a Priestess or Priest that the couple has chosen for this rite usually performs the ceremony. The one thing that you probably will not see is a father of the bride handing over is daughter like a piece of merchandise, though he may be one accompanying her into the circle as a loved one.

The preferred time for this rite varies as well, some say it must be a waning moon, new moon, etc…while others say it must be in May. You decided, this is after all your special day! Below you shall find some things you may wish to add to your rite, decorations, gifts, or food ideas. Before you decide to do a handfasting you should consult with the person who will be officiating at this event. Is this a year and a day betrothal, or the handfasting? Is this one that ends at the end of life, or is this union that continues with each reincarnation? Does this priest/ess insist on the Great Rite being performed? If so is it actual or symbolic? Can we say our own vows? Be prepared to ask these questions and many more, find out what is best for you, and make sure that the priest/ess is willing to work with you, before you go into your ceremony just to feel uncomfortable. This should be a time of spirituality and commitment, besides the typical cold feet you should not have fears of your day- turning into someone else's idea of perfection.

Before the ceremony the Circle should have already been cast and consecrated by the priest/ess. Decorate with flowers and fruits of the season. Your altar should be placed at the center of the Circle with a pair of white candles and seasonal décor about and upon it. If you wish to have a cauldron present in your rite, you may fill it at this time with flowers, which may be used to hold the flowers that will be used for the casting of the circle and to adorn the area with throughout the rite

Also on your altar you may wish to place a small plate of cakes and the wine. A wonderful tradition that I have found is the use of a simple wand. This wand (willow wand) that rests upon the altar carries the rings- no chance of them not being found at the right time. If the couple have made gifts for each other they may also rest upon the altar until the appropriate time for exchange. Another delight is the True Lovers Knot, for this you will need a 2-foot length of 1/4-inch wide ribbon in pink, white, red, or any color you prefer. Let's not forget the tradition of jumping the broom at the end. This is a beautiful act done by the newly wed couple. As they take their leave of the circle they jump the broom with arms wrapped around each other's waist in the symbol of crossing the threshold. Doing this together is their first act of handling the obstacles in life and for the act of protection and love they have found. If the have planned ahead for this moment, they might add a special wish as they cross over.

The "bride" and "groom" traditionally enter the circle from the East along with guests and family. They may enter hand and hand if they wish. After they have entered, the circle is closed and if flowers were scattered around the rest of the rim then they are placed at this entry point as well.

If you wish to have attendants in your ceremony it is best if you have two women and two men. The women can help with the circle taking their positions at the East and the West, while the men attend the South and the North parts of the circle.