I really hate to do this, but since no-one else does, I guess I better make some concerns of mine heard:( Before we start though, I'd like to mention that I never knew the person in question, but from what I read here, it sounds like he was a well-liked person. For those of you hating my reguarly long posts, here's the summary: I would prefer they didn't. Now, if you want the explanation, you'll have to endure my longwindedness;) I realize this opinion is probably going to cause some flak, but if you feel the need to do so, please refrain from doing it on this board, there are other forums more suited for that kind. ok. First of all, I believe in the seperation of fantasy from reality. With this, I mean that when we submerge ourself into the fantasy world, it is not to be reminded of the real-world misery we might or might not be enduring. We go there to relax, have fun and forget reality for a short while. Starting to name areas after people when they die, isn't seperating fantasy from reality, in my opinion, but rather dragging it with you, making the borders between the two blurry, until they ultimately dissapear when the two worlds collide. Second, I'm not sure I like the idea of realm becoming a 'memorial graveyard'. Things seems in many cases, to be run by precedences(sp?). If this naming of a place were to take place, it sets a precedence for this kind of thing. Someone else who have a loved one that dies, hears about it, and thinks 'That would be right for him/her too'. And so it goes... Letting such a thing go unrestricted, would pretty soon lead to, that any person that played the game and died in the real world, would have their close friends and familiy wish for a named-place on the realm. After all, if some one else got it, why should he/she not? I think it will be hard for anybody to start arguing about what constitutes a greater right for a named place when the person that is to be named after is dead. Unless whole realm should turn into a giant graveyard of names, what should the criterias be for getting a name? Do we really feel it is ethical to put up such criterias? To say that one person's death is more deserving of a named place than anothers? The alternative, that everyplace sooner or later would end up reminding you of someone who has passed away in real life, is omnious to say the least, and hardly allows us to forget the real world while we play. Lastly, on a more personal level, I have never felt it was a good thing to 'hold on' to your dead friends. If you do not let them go, it will always put a damper on your mood and make you depressed. I have always felt, that the greatest sign of 'good friendship'(Can't find the exact word I'm looking for here, sorry.) is, that you can remember them, or the things that helped you on in life from them, without a need for a physical manifestation of the memory. Also, having a place remind you of one of your good friends everytime you log on realm, only makes it that more harder for the people that knew the person to let it go, so to speak. It is hard at such moments not to wish to live in the past, but we do need to live in the present and evolve with what happens around us, death being one of them, how harsh it may sound. I'm sorry for those of you that knew the person well, and grieves for him. As I said earlier, I never knew him, but I know how it feels, as I too have lost a few close people as time goes by, some of them even earlier than your friend:( But cold as it may sound, it is not the first time it have happened, nor will it be the last. And we need to get up and move on each time it happens, or we will end lost in the past with little clue to the present. Please, let's keep the sadness of the realm world from affecting our fantasy. There's enough sadness sometimes in it on it's own behalf without needing to bring yet more from the real world. Yours truly Daniel
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