Libra
Librans hate to be rude yet they'll straighten the crooked picture on your wall and snap off your blaring TV set. Librans love people, but they hate large crowds. Like gentle doves of peace, they go around mediating and patching up quarrels between others; still they enjoy a good argument themselves. They're good-natured and pleasant, but they can also be sulky, and they balk at taking orders. Librans are extremely intelligent. At the same time, they're incredibly naive and gullible. They'll talk your ear off, yet they're wonderfully good listeners. Librans are restless people. But they seldom rush or hurry. There's a frustrating inconsistency to this Sun sign that puzzles the Librans themselves as much as it does others.
Lots of people will tell you that Libra is all love and beauty and sweetness and light. That's fine, as far as it goes, but it stops a little short of accuracy. Just because the sign is symbolized by the golden scales of justice, don't even think that Librans are always perfectly balanced. The ultimate goal of the scale is to get both sides even, but what happens? First one side is low, then the other. Up and down, and they dip until there's perfect balance.
Never again will you have a mental picture of a Libran as a calm, perfectly balanced, sweet, gracious and charming individual. You'll have a mental picture of a person who has this kind of disposition half the time. The other half of the time, Libra can be annoying, quarrelsome, stubborn, restless, depressed and confused. They are human beings after all! Libra is first up, then down. He swings one way, then another. Suddenly, like the scales - perfect balance! It's heavenly.
The physical appearance of these people may require almost as much concentration as the personality. There's no such thing as a typical Libra feature, unless it's the Venus dimple. Libran features are almost always even and well-balanced. They're pleasing, but not very noticeable, so it's easier to start with the dimples. After you've ruled the Venus dimples in or out, notice the entire effect of the face. It will always wear a markedly pleasant expression. Even when the Libran is angry, somehow he will manage to look mild, or at the very least, neutral. Venus voices are typically sweet and clear as a bell, and these people seldom raise them to a shrill or bellowing pitch. A Libran is the only person on earth who can say, "I hate you and I' m going to punch you in the nose", and sound as if he's reciting Browning's "How do I love Thee?". In fact, the typical Libra face reminds you of nothing so much as a box of bonbons. Or a sugar cookie. The women are almost invariably pretty, and the men are usually handsome. The best way to recognize them is to begin by thinking about the sweet expressions of Dwight Eisenhower and Brigitte Bardot, and then go from there. Even the rare Libran who might be called ugly, and it will be most unusual to find one, has such a charming expression, you're persuaded to comment that there's real beauty of character in his or her face. You'll never meet a Libran who who doesn't have a smile like a soft, white cloud. When it hits you full force, it has enough candle power to transfigure even plain or downright homely features - literally, not figuratively.
Most Librans are full of curves, rather than angles. Their hair is often curly. They're not necessarily fat. Using Bardot once more as an exemple, one certainly could not call her fat - but could one call her skinny? There's one more trick in mastering the Venus appearance and physical characteristics. You'll notice a bright, lilting laugh, that rings with merriment. Once you've heard it, you won't soon forget it.
Now you might think that to be born attractive and dimpled, to seek fairness and loveliness, to be pleasing and easily pleased, is a blessing. You might imagine that gentleness and intelligence, grace and understanding are the gifts of a fairy godmother. You might be right. When the Libra scales are balanced, it's utterly delightful, like meeting an angel from paradise. The problem is that fairy godmother. She keeps rapping one side of the scales with her wand and then the other, making Libra dip back and forth. She can't make up her fickle mind whether she made a mistake or not, and she passed her indecision on to Librans. First they'll talk up a storm and monopolize the conversation. Then they'll listen intently, with flattering interest. When others are fighting, they'll play the role of peacemaker, and smooth everyone's ruffled feathers.
They seek harmony. Yet, lots of Librans indulge in excessive eating, drinking or love- making. The Sun sign itself is known as Lazy Libra, and that's another inconsistency. For days, weeks or months on end, Librans can be too busy to play. They'll burn gallons of midnight oil, then rise and shine in time to hear the rooster crow. It wears you out just to watch them. Suddenly, they'll plop down into a chair, say, "I'm busted", and give the best imitation of laziness you've ever seen. Once they've plopped, you won't catch them moving a muscle if they can help it. He'll talk, read, yawn, snooze, watch TV or stare out the window, and seem barely able to make it to the bedroom (though he'll manage). After a period, when he's recouped his forces, he'll feel a spurt of energy, get up, and once more, he'll work like a mule in harness, keeping a miraculous balance and a steady, even pace, as he harmoniously plans his chores with efficient ease. Librans know instinctively that to restore harmony to the body, they must alternate their active spells with complete rest. Their personal arrangement of genes and cells and electrical impulses demand it, and most of them are pretty adept at managing this delicate physical balance. However, harmony of the mind and emotions isn't always as instinctive with them. The Libran is constantly dipping deeply into one emotion and then the other by turns, which isn't the same thing as the complete change of character of the Gemini twins. There's a deep richness to Libra's emotions, no matter what emotion is high or low at a given moment, and a philosophical approach to both sorrows and joys that seldom fails to smooth things out eventually.
An instinct for sanity keeps most Librans mentally healthy and physically fit. Usually, they avoid serious breakdowns of body and mind. The biggest threat to their health is overindulgence of some kind. Generally, Librans are healthier then most people, unless they push themselves too hard, and forget to take those necessary rest periods.
The Libra character is made up of just about equal parts of kindness, gentleness, fairness, plain cussed argumentativeness, stubborn refusal to capitulate, philosophical logic and indecision. A Libran will argue with you about what time it is, if he thinks your watch is two seconds off. He doesn't really care which side he takes in a good argument, as long as it's the other side. Throughout all this constant, logical deduction, the Libran will try to remain fair. Libra dreads the appearance of prejudice, unjust accusation and blind faith equally. What he seeks is the real truth, the exact balance that gives the correct answer, after weighing all possibilities.
It's an admirable trait, of course, but all that weighing can drive a positive person simply wild. It can drive the Libran himself into a state of constant indecision. Even the most controlled Venus men and women dislike making instant decisions without taking all the possibilities into consideration. There are some who can't decide which shoe to put on first in the morning, let alone which side of the bed to get out of. He doesn't like to be hurried or pushed while he's deciding, either. Impatience is one quality most Librans can't stand. It's amusing that Librans will always immediately deny their indecisiveness. His denial means that, although he takes a devilishly long time to make up his mind, once he's reached a conclusion, he won't let go of it.
Very few Librans are markedly eccentric or show-offs. Most of them are as wholesome and as well-balanced as a neat field of wheat, swaying back and forth gracefully in the wind. They're normally scrupulously honest in business deals, and there's very little carelessness about them. Libra would rather take his time and get it right, than make a false start and have to repeat the process. They hate exaggeration, and they're repelled by embarrassing displays of anger and passion, though they themselves can be guilty of both extremes if they're pressed beyond their endurance. Most Librans have a fantastic hability to concentrate and to ponder deep subjects. They are born with an affection for books and you're almost sure to find an extensive library in every Libran home.
They love the harmony of sounds, colors, poetry and the proper use of words, both written and spoken. Rarely do they escape the influence of the arts. A Libran is a gentle, tender lover of all that's good and clean and lovely. He's an artistic soul at heart, who enjoys spreading the soft blue and pastel shades of Venus at parties and cultural occasions. Soft light, mellow music, interesting conversation, good food and fine wines turn him on. His mind has both the brilliance of the diamond and the smoothness of the opal. He moves in the changing element of air and reflects the usefulness of copper, his harmonizing metal. There's a touch of the cool, Libran mint in his alert reasoning and his sharp sense of honor, and six dimensions of peace shine down on him from Venus.
You'll get plenty of free advice from this man. He'll have the perfect solution to all your problems and an answer for every question you ask. But there's no use expecting him to be the answer to all your girlish dreams.
Still, once you're caught and enmeshed in the Libran charm, it won't be easy to break away. If you try to run, he'll persuade you to stay with such logical, intelligent arguments you couldn't hope to top them unless you graduated from Harvard Law School. In addition to using his unmatched reasoning powers on you, he'll turn so sweet and gentle, you'll forget the frustating inconsistencies of his nature that upset you before. Then he'll smile at you and something will happen inside. From that moment on, the battle will be lost. His dreams will be your dreams, and nothing will matter so much as making him happy. You'll seek that smile and need it to survive the way a thirsty traveler needs water. The Libran charm is not like the hypnotic persuasion of the Scorpio. The attraction of Libra is logical and real, not supernatural in any sense.
Don't be so naive as to think love will be smooth and eternally tranquil, even if he is ruled by Venus. If you're up on your Greek mythology, you're aware that Venus had her off days. Still, when the scales balance, life with Libra can be as intoxicating as a goblet of golden ambrosia, with lots of laughs and a casual freedom known only to the gods who cavort on Olympus.
Making up his mind is a chore no less strenuous to the average Libran male than taming a wild buffalo, and once he's made it up, he's liable to change it with no warning if he suspects he's made a mistake.
The word love and the word Libra are practically synonymous. Libra invented romance, and refined it to an art with even more finesse than Leo, Scorpio and Taurus, which is saying a lot. The delicate strategies of Cupid are inbred Libran talents. He'll use every trick with casual ease and seldom fail to get the girl. However, once he gets her, he isn't always sure what to do with her. Having thoroughly charmed her into willing submission, he hesitates. Should he take advantage of her helpless state or should he propose her marriage? Or both? Or neither? He won't lose interest in the opposite sex until he's at least ninety. It may be purely an academic interest if he's happily married, but the subject will never bore him, even if he only speculates what it would be like to whirl each pretty girl he sees around an imaginary ballroom.
Libra hates to hurt anyone's feelings, though he remains blissfully unaware of the damage done when he's in an argumentative mood. He hates to say no, and seldom realizes that postponement is more unkind than an outright break of an affair which has no chance of happiness. In the opposite situation when the mutual feeling is as close to sublime as humans ever reach on this earth, the prolonged agony can be equally tortuous. If he senses he's being unfair to someone in his own life, there will be no end to his painful indecision. Being unfair is, to him, a crime roughly on a level with murder.
The tendency toward fickleness in Libra man can't be denied. They do tend to trifle, especially in youth. The natural Libra impulse is to size up every third or fourth woman they come across, and weigh her possibilities of being the true soul mate. They often get friendship and love hopelessly confused. Surprisingly, it's not often that the Libran will suffer from a broken heart, for all his dabbling and experimenting. He can forget with insulting quickness. He may sustain a few bruised spots, but there will be no permanent damage, except in very unusual cases. Then the hurt can be devastating beyond imagination. But it's easier to find a soft-hearted, guileless Libra man in the clutches of a passionately determined female, who has made him feel that deserting her would be a sin second only to breaking all the ten commandments at once. Caught in such a net, he can be a pretty miserable prisoner of love. But both extremes are the exceptions, and most Libra men manage to keep free enough to enjoy romance to the fullest, without letting sentimental ties rope them in.
He isn't too interested in rooting out your secrets. He may seem to be, at first glance, but take a second look. Often he misses what's going two inches under his nose. Everyone will notice what's happening but him. His questions aren't aimed at uncovering anyone's hidden neurosis. he just wants to sort the facts and assemble them in the proper places. The Piscean, Scorpio or Aquarian's deep penetration of character would, to his mind, muddy the crystal-clear picture he seeks. He instinctively feels that such psychological examination is out of his line. It is.
Always remember that the Libran argues with only an abstract curiosity. He appears to be a prober, but he's not. Nor is he as nosy and gossipy as he seems to be. It's like breaking the seal of the confessional to pry a secret given in confidence from the typical Libran. All this makes him terribly trustworthy, but a little hard on your feelings. You can confide in him with faith. But you'll suffer when he misses sensing your innermost needs. He wants to please you, but there's seldom enough understanding of your silent hopes to satisfy all your longings.
Trouble invariably arises from this Libran lack of awareness of the partner's need to be understood in depth. It may seem unbelievable that he can be so intuitive about the abstract, so brilliantly logical in deduction, so capable of clear, open-minded and open-eyed deliberation, and still be so aggravating obtuse about what makes you ache or thrill inside. But it's one of those inconsistencies you have to live with, if you live with a Libran. His gentleness and that smile, of course, make it easier to bear.
Unless there are financial afflictions in his natal chart, he won't be tight with the budget. On the contrary, the typical Libran has a rather lavish hand with cash. He believes in spending it on objects or activities that bring beauty or happiness.
Don't drag him to crowded places where he's forced to feel the press of flesh and where the noise offends his sense of harmony. Crowds of strangers affect his inner equilibrium. A Libra man can suddenly leave you alone in a crowded theater with no explanation. He doesn't hate you. He was just overcome with claustrophobia, a typical Libran affliction.
The Libra male hates confusion, and he really needs harmony to remain stable. His home must be a beautiful, quiet oasis from the jangling discord of the outside world, or those scales may remain permanently out of balance.
The children will always benefit from his sense of fairness. He'll make sure the biggest youngsters don't take advantage of the baby, or the youngest doesn't break the oldest's bicycle spokes. Libran fathers will exercise discipline with quiet authority, and they'll try to give a logical reason for punishment, which will seldom be administered in anger. Strangely, a Libra man usually doesn't look forward enthusiastically to the birth of children. But after they arrive, he weighs the advantage of their love against loneliness, plunges into fatherhood with a sincere desire to enjoy it, and normally ends up as a doting parent.
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